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shinyshoes posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months agoAnyone else find that listing yourself as Bi means couples just keep approaching you for threesomes? Um, no thanks. I’m actually mainly dating guys from OKC, feel a bit weird meeting women online and actually do better with women irl than men as I read fairly gay and do roller derby so spend most of my free time around queer girls.
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Luna posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months agoI knew I wasn’t alone. Oh WELCOME TO YOU ALL.
I’m so sorry about the creepers and the non responders and the fronters and the fakers and the sexual skeeevers.HUGS.
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Rinnie posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months agoI had a previous profile where I chose “bisexual” because the options are so limited, and then I got a ton of skeevy guys messaging me about sex, which … ick. I’m creating a new profile and just going with “gay” since I’m more attracted to girls anyway and I’m sick of getting cyber-jumped by creeps.
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OKC has added a feature recently where gay and bi users can keep straight people from viewing our pages, so if you’re mainly there for girls but not 100% lesbian that is another option.
It’s weird, though, I’m bi but have myself looking for “girls who like girls” and say I’m more interested in girls but not closed to guys if we have a lot in…[Read more]
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Yeah, I checked off that option this time around, and it’s sooo much better.
The creeps are infinitely more persistent than the respectful ones. :/
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Potter posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months agoI actually feel kind of bad for the people who message me right now. I’m in the middle of a disaster response, so I have less time than usual to respond. And normally I’m gone during the week (on conservation project) with no internet connection as it is!
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Allison posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months agoI talked with one chick on the phone/text for a week, invited her out to my pad for a visit (just to hang out!), and suddenly she had a girlfriend and refused to speak to me. Weird. :|
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that totally happened to me too! we were chatting and it was going well and then she was like, oh, I have a girlfriend, see ya.
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Avery posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months agoI’m not even sure why I joined. I just liked the quiz-things and thought “why not create a profile” and then this creepy French girl started messaging me because we were a perfect match or something but she was weird and standoffish and persistent and so then I left. :(
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claire22 posted an update in the group
The Great Library of Autostraddle 12 years, 5 months agoJust finished reading Brick Lane by Monica Ali. Freaking amazing. No gayness unfortunately, but particularly good for anyone who’d like to know more about Bangladesh,London and immigration into the UK.
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Allison posted an update in the group
The Great Library of Autostraddle 12 years, 5 months agoJust finished my third Christopher Moore book in a row: Bloodsucking Fiends. I also started Tipping the Velvet awhile back. Any thoughts? It’s my first lesbian-related fiction book. Why do they all have to be romances though? I want action! I want excitement! Lesbian ninjas vs zombies! Yanno.. something.
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If you like Christopher Moore, try tracking down Rock N Roll Babes From Outer Space by Linda Jaivin–it’s one of those pop-culture-humor based surreal goofy comedies, and all the main females are queer in one way or another. (The leader is heteroflexible, one is opportunistic, and one’s a butch rockergirl lesbian.)
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OMG that’s awesome! I’ll look for it. Thanks!
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Gerri Hill writes some good action; I liked “The Target,” and the first couple books of Radclyffe’s “Honor” series are good. If you want ninjas, I recommend “A Love Story: Starring My Dead Best Friend” by Emily Horner. I know it sounds rough, but it’s an amazing YA book. trust me.
I have lots of other teen books and mass-market lesbian…[Read more]
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Awesome :) I haven’t read a young adult book since I was a young adult…does RL Stine still write? I used to love him!
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Stine’s books are being repackaged…i’m not sure that’s the same thing. there’s a current trend in YA lit to reissue older series (l.J. Smith, Christopher Pike, etc.) in three-in-one omnibuses. if you like that type of story, however, i highly recommend lori stolarz’s “Project 17.”
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Emma posted an update in the group
The Great Library of Autostraddle 12 years, 5 months agoCan we talk about the amazingness that is a Kindle? I’ve developed an unhealthy attachment to mine. Like, I get anxiety if I forget to take it with me when I go somewhere, even if I won’t be able to read it. I have about 45 books on it right now. Does anyone else have one? (or a Nook, or a E-Reader)
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Word. I’m in love with mine. I’ve got about 120 books on it, mostly thanks to Project Gutenberg. I live in Asia, so the Kindle is really my only means of purchasing English language books. I’d be dying out here without it(or more likely: using the Internet A LOT more). I can’t always find the books I want on it(JD Salinger, get your dead self up…[Read more]
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A friend from Malaysia says that if you set your address to the States, you can purchase more books. (Because of liscensing whatnots)
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YES. Dear god. I actually started limiting access to my account because of that. “straight people” can’t see me now. I’ve gotten a couple nice meetings with some bi guys out of that. Still working on the girls part.
Yup, had that problem, too.
I’ve never had a message from a threesome-pursuing couple. I’m just puzzled that they keep coming up in my searches because they list themselves as “single.” If you need to put a disclaimer at the bottom of your profile about how you have a boyfriend YOU ARE NOT SINGLE.
That happens to me a bunch! And random guys. I’ve actually gone back and forth between listing myself as “bi” and “gay”. I suppose overall I’m bi, but I feel like no one wants to date bi girls and that it cuts down my chances of actually meeting someone. Anyone else have that problem?