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Swizz posted an update in the group Fencestraddlers 8 years, 2 months ago

Hey so, some validation is needed: its totally normal to be in a committed relationship with a dude or whatever and just miss the female body right?
I know its fine but it kinda, at more vulnerable moments, makes me feel like a “greedy” bi trope, you know.

Thoughts?

Kristina replied 8 years, 2 months ago

Oh my god yes. I suspect that if I stay with my current dude long-term I will absolutely need to do some open or poly stuff at some point. I tend to think it’s because I’m way further to the lesbian end of the spectrum than the other end, but it’s probably totally justified even without that.
- Swizz replied 8 years, 2 months ago
  
  That feels so good to hear! I feel like I’m drifting that way too. I just – ladies are so cool, and dudes are alright – I just happen to be in love with one :P
  
  But with open stuff my worry all like the anti-bi rhetoric like oh “bi folk aren’t loyal” etc
  
  Like all the things in Heather Hogans tv recap today – pertinent.
  
  Plus do ladies even…[Read more]
  - Kristina replied 8 years, 2 months ago
    
    Yeah I don’t know about that one. There’s anti-bi thinking all over the place, so being open or poly can definitely be hard. Some people manage it, and manage to form communities where people are ok with it, but I sure haven’t had any luck with that yet…
    
    > ladies are so cool, and dudes are alright – I just happen to be in love with one
    I 100% f…[Read more]
ashurredly replied 8 years, 2 months ago

I think that’s totally fine! And I hear you about being closer to the lesbian end of the spectrum – I define myself as a misandrist who makes exceptions…
- Swizz replied 8 years, 2 months ago
  
  Ha ha ha that is awesome :)
  - Robyn replied 8 years, 1 month ago
    
    i would just like to add my 2 cents to this convo…which is i agree with everything that was already said.

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