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Michelle posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 11 years, 9 months ago
Okay, so I shouldn’t be this scared coming out on freaking Autostraddle but I am because…I am bisexual, and I’m sort of concerned I’m going to be on the receiving end of “why are you trying to come out as bi on a LESBIAN website?” biphobia. Anyway, I’ve made some tiny coming out baby steps last year (working it in to relative conversations with…[Read more]
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cartmel posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 11 years, 9 months ago
I know that I’m gay, but I’ve been sexually involved with men, and I’m even hetero-married though we have been separated from some time. I am saving up for a divorce, we are on speaking terms and right now $300 to drop on divorce forms at LegalZoom seems so postponable. If there was like, a negative star lesbian rating to give me, I’d get it. I’ve…[Read more]
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Hey, I’d say that you have permission to call yourself a lesbian lesbian if you feel like one. You don’t have to apologize for a heterosexual past. Sexuality is more convoluted than a lot of people think, and there are many people (myself included) who feel that they are no longer comfortable in their assumed sexual identity and need a new “label”…[Read more]
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Wow, thanks for that reply. I like the ‘future intentions’ way of looking at identity. Coolness! Now I can skip off into the sunset! And thanks again!
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Marsha posted an update in the group
Not Straight After All, Hey-O! 11 years, 9 months agoGee girls, the ‘straddle poll says only 6% of ‘straddlers are over 35. PALEASE do not tell me I’m the grandmother of this site, please!
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No you ARE not the grandma!! I’m so old I can’t even figure out how to put my picture in my profile LOL…I did the whole Gravatar thing…NOW WHAT?!
Hope there are more of us over 40 and just came out gals!
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I feel the same way. I’m so new to this site, I feel like a baby, but since I’m 40 I feel like an outcast.
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I’m 66 and just starting to live as the lesbian that I’ve been denying all these years! I’m the Grandma Lesbian here!!! Now to find the love of my life….big job.
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Us over 40 late bloomers need to stick together. I still haven’t quite decided if I am or not, I’ve questioned my sexuality a few times over the years but, while relationships with men don’t quite feel right, I can’t say I want an intimate relationship with a woman either. So now what?
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sean posted an update in the group
Not Straight After All, Hey-O! 11 years, 9 months agoThis is so funny, just today in a comment i was saying there should be a group for the late bloomers on account of how we’re in much different circumstances than the younger queers are.
I mean even just beside the how to meet women aspect. You know?
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Marsha posted an update in the group
Not Straight After All, Hey-O! 11 years, 9 months agoDream, I was fortunate to chat with someone on line which led to a meeting and eventual romance. I have been hit on by three other womyn but IO have never been the pursuer. I guess the easiest way is the net because for me I am not a drinker so Lesbars are not a place I want to look for companionship. I’m sorry, I guess that isn’t too helpful.
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Ash posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 11 years, 10 months ago
Coming out during Christmas advice needed.
Over the summer I in fact came out to my parents, who are incredibly Christian/conservative/butawesome. It went well in the fact that they aren’t treating me differently, it went bad in the way that they aren’t about to acknowledge my queerness anytime soon and think that 23 years of life with only one 9…[Read more]
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I really wish this forum program would recognize spaces, because all of that is actually neatly spaced paragraphs instead of a large blob of text.
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Wow. I don’t know that I have any useful advice. Have you considered talking to your parents beforehand and seeing if they’re cool with it? I don’t know if that’s a good idea or not.
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I feel like you have been considerate of your family for awhile now with not coming out to the rest of the family. Maybe this will be a great opportunity to share the news with everyone else at the same time your cousin is going to tell everyone shes been married for a year secretly. I feel like your situation will balance out the other. Might not…[Read more]
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Ash joined the group
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You should just go to a meeting, even if you don’t have much to say and it’s awkward at first. What’s to lose? Don’t feel out of place or like you don’t belong because you’re bi–I’ve been out as bi for 10 yrs now (I’m 26) and I know that even when I’m with a straight boyfriend, my life and experiences are still different from a straight person’s…[Read more]
I went to PFLAG meetings at university because I felt I needed gay identity and to know other gay people. They were so friendly, welcoming, and nice. So did you end up going to any meetings?
I went to the drop-in centre at my school a couple of times. Even though no one knew how I identified (because no one can really ask), it was awkward because people seemed to know each other and I was out of place. I’m hoping to go to queer orientation week next year, which I was too afraid/discouraged by rain to attend this year.
I’ve gotten…[Read more]
How about meeting girls online for dates or for friendship only? Sometimes I meet lesbian couples for friendship and maybe they can introduce me to their single friends; plus I get to know more queer people. I belonged to several dating sites before I met my wife. I just looked up to see if there were lots of girls who like girls in Toronto or…[Read more]