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Femme Straddlers 12 years, 5 months agoFIRST EVER BFF Friday! Ask Your BFFs (butch-femme friends) answers column NUMBER ONE is up :)
http://buzzcutsandbustiers.com/2011/05/27/ask-your-bffs-monogamy-femme-invisibility-and-butch-protective-energy/-
ALSO send questions anytime–this will be recurring. Comment here or on the blog, or you can PM me or @prufrock!
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:D THANKS, for real! We like you! Do please check back; more awesome to come.
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Riley posted an update in the group
Does anyone have any advice about going out to eat with a group of people when you’re vegan? I haven’t really had this problem a lot because I’m homeschooled and don’t go out much, but I’m going off to college next year and will hopefully have real friends.
I always feel like a pain because I hate salad and a lot of other places don’t have good…[Read more]-
Salad is usually horrible, agreed! I don’t know where you’re based, but Indian(/Pakistani/Bangladeshi) restaurants in UK often have veggie curries, which, unless they use ghee, should be vegan.
East Asian places (e.g. Wagamama’s) should also be quite a good bet, since they don’t often use dairy. Wagamama’s has a folder of allergy etc advice,…[Read more] -
Memorize which restaurants in the area have vegan stuff so when someone wants to go out to eat you can suggest some places right off the bat. Accept that you might be eating plain salad sometimes, or just get a drink and eat beforehand, and talk a little about how you’re vegan and hopefully if your new friends are nice they’ll make sure you’re…[Read more]
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I only ever eat Asian food (chinese, thai, indian, japanese). This solves everything. Or alternatively look on happycow.com or urbanspoon.com or eatability.com for veg-friendly restaurants.
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Thanks for the advice everyone! I’ll definitely try to find out some good vegan spots to eat beforehand…and check out those websites, too. :)
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Mediterranean food can be pretty vegetarian friendly as well. Also, a lot of college towns have a large enough vegetarian population to support a vegetarian restaurant or two, so you might look into that option as well. I did my undergrad at University of Wyoming and even they had a veggie restaurant, and that town didn’t even have a place to…[Read more]
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dizzy posted an update in the group
Femme Straddlers 12 years, 5 months agoHow do femme straddlers express themselves fashion-wise? I seem to switch between 50s gal and indie nerd :D
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Day to day: (and a lot of events): dark jeans, fitted black v-neck t shirts, black boots and statement necklace. The occasional wrap/a-line/shirtdress with an interesting pattern. Getting into the tights-with-shorts thing this summer because I’m at the upper age bracket for looking cute and not silly.
Work/Some events: A black blazer makes…[Read more]-
Nice, sounds both classy and comfortable :) I love a statement necklace with blacks and boots, a great way to inject a bit of character without going OTT. Also, you folk dance? Awesome!
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I contra :D Especially techno contra when I can manage it: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pt6BhNSpoRY (A lot of hot nerdy gay girls and other queer folk are into it, surprisingly enough)
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At work I try for classics/basics with a little bit of a sharp edge. Lot of grayscale, minimal color pops, clean straight lines, very little in the way of patterns or pastels or soft ruffly anything. If I could steal Kalinda(of the Good Wife)’s wardrobe I would in a heartbeat. I dunno how you would sum up her style? Biz-badass-caz?
The rest of my…[Read more]
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Clothes of questionable taste are the best kind. I have a black t-shirt that is shirred/cut up and put together/threaded with maroon yarn and thread, with a subtle print of two fairies having sex on the back near the right hip. Best 3 euro I ever spent.
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That sounds AMAZING.
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YESSSSSSSSSSS distressed tees yesssssssssssssss. My bestie who knows me ALL to well just gave me a hot pink WWJJD (What Would Joan Jett Do) oversize tee that I cannot wait to tear up and put back together. Yours sounds fab :)
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Ok! I actually have not watched the Good Wife before, so I googled the character, and, OMG, super hot. Femme but with a certain energy that makes her edgy rather than sweet. Mmm.
In other news, I really like your workwear. I quit my office job to work in a community organisation, but I used to wear: sleeveless sheath dress made from suit…[Read more]
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That sounds like an awesome getup! Yeah, I find that it works out pretty well for me to have my dual identity: sharp biz caz something-or-other at work and totally grungily inappropriate on weekends. Even though I feel like the latter is more “authentic,” I’d definitely miss the put-together alter ego if it were no longer called for in my life.…[Read more]
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I love AA, so I sort of switch between over the top colours with lots of short skirts and dresses to a bit of a nerd or even sometimes punkish look.
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maddie0 posted an update in the group
Femme Straddlers 12 years, 5 months agoGUYYYYYS I’m posting about @prufrock and my blog again but I don’t care, because this is awesome: http://buzzcutsandbustiers.com/2011/05/24/ask-your-bffs-butch-femme-friends-a-good-idea-or-the-best-idea/ Wherein we tackle anything you throw at us. Because surely you’ve got questions that can only be answered by a smart, lovingly snarky, and…[Read more]
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I have a rhetorical (cough cough right) question for you.
How is it that all the couples I know are monogomous, but all the people I date are poly (as a lifestyle). How’d all the monogomous people find each other?
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Yay thanks for playin! Question has been noted, and we’ll reply with the link here when our first answers post goes up! :)
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how do butches tell femmes are queer? are we really that invisible? I mean, I have dyke hair now obvs, but I don’t think it makes me look any queerer…just wondering. ;)
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Sweet, thanks for the question! We got ya and should have an answers column up soon! :)
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These questions. I second them. And will plug my own blog in which the “invisible femme” phenomenon was a recent topic: http://deviantthoughts.wordpress.com/2011/05/15/fabulous-femmes/
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Sweet! Will definitely check it out. Our answers column is up if you want to take a look! http://buzzcutsandbustiers.com/2011/05/27/ask-your-bffs-monogamy-femme-invisibility-and-butch-protective-energy/
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Post is up!! http://buzzcutsandbustiers.com/2011/05/27/ask-your-bffs-monogamy-femme-invisibility-and-butch-protective-energy/ Feedback welcomed, natch.
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You two are awesome! Thank you for the very thoughtful answer–online dating has been a whole delicate balance of expectations, reality, voicing my needs but being willing to try new things–but it will be something to think on. :D
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Thanks again for the question! The frequency of the feature will probably be based on volume of questions, so never hesitate if there’s another topic you want us to tackle :)
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When I find that great lady on a dating site, I want to write her but I always feel like what I have to say is DUMB. Advice on what to write to break the ice and make nice? ;)
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Yay thanks for the question! We’ll keep it on hand for the next installment!!
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Allison posted an update in the group
Okay girls (and boys! Are there boys? Hi!):
Do any of you camp? I’m going into the woods for two weeks with a bunch of students, and I’ve never really done vegetarian camping. Esp since I have to prepare meat-foods for my students. I haven’t cooked meat in a while… argh.
Since I won’t have fresh veggies or anything, what do you recommend…[Read more]
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I’ve seen several different brands of single-serve shelf-stable hummus, would that do? My go-to when hiking is hummus, crackers, and raisins.
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ok i do alot of veggie camping and have several go tos i use. though i’m not quite sure since you wont have fresh veggies (is that because of a backpack space thing?) assuming you will have access to fire and a pan i dice all the veggies up prior to leaving. make a container of tofu scramble, premade blk bean burgers, chopped root vegetables to…[Read more]
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oh and chili! all u need is a pot and cans of beans and tomatoes and some prediced peppers. probably a good meal for one of the nights you are close to the car
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Femme Straddlers 12 years, 5 months ago@Rie GOOD POINT. I’m making a post because the reply isn’t working.
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Hey AG, Maria and I have been having the same woe, but the brilliant maddie0 has a workaround – click ‘view’ on the post you are trying to comment on, and you should be able to comment from the permalink of the post :)
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IT WORKS!
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