Abbye Pittser

  • cindy posted an update in the group Group logo of Femme StraddlersFemme Straddlers 12 years, 5 months ago

    I made this group coz I often feel like the only femme in the village when I go out. So I love to be reassured that I’m not the only girly girl out there and not the only one who faces: “you’re too pretty to be gay” “or no you’re not.” when I tell someone I like ladies.

    • I KNOW RIGHT, I can like to coordinate my eyeliner to my sundress and still like teh ladies! And the too pretty argument, UGH UGH UGH. You’re too ugly to be straight.

      • One of the best compliments I ever got was from a butch who noticed that I coordinated my eyeliner to my nail polish and the accent color in my scarf. Fear now, folk who appreciate this are out there!

    • “you’re too pretty to be gay” is the WORST. Gaydom is what ugly women do (beause they can’t find a man)? Um, no.

    • augh, this drives me mad every time someone tells me this. my best friend’s parents actually think it’s just a phase specifically because i’m “too pretty” to like women. what kind of logic is that? fffff get out and shut the door when you leave.

    • hey, im in the same boat, the “too pretty” thing is a popular come back if i tell someone im gay but theres also the “aw, such a waste” – i wana say , wtf?? to most of those ppl but i hate confrontation and just sorta roll with the punches. i needa get a back bone installed! lol

      • Oh my god, my old boss (who is female!!!!) once told me it was ‘such a waste’ that Portia de Rossi is gay. I just kind of gaped at her, but I wish I’d asked her what the hell she meant, because I never understand that crap.

      • but in all honesty, I think we’ve all secretly thought the same about a straight girl :P

    • I’m glad to know I’m not the only one who worries about the way I dress affecting whether or not people believe that I’m not attracted to men. I mean, I hope I’m never self-centered enough to think I’m the “only one who…” anything, but still, nice to see confirmation.