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Femme Straddlers 8 years, 2 months agoAny advice for looking queer while still embracing femme-ness? Is it even worth it to try to “look queer” if you’re not actively looking for a lady romantic interest? I feel vaguely uncomfy with the idea of people assuming I’m straight.
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Fencestraddlers 8 years, 2 months agoAnyone have any opinions on bisexuality in OITNB? I have some opinions but I want to hear what others have to say first.
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I feel like bisexuality might be slightly less erased than usually, but that that’s not saying much…
I honestly haven’t really thought about it much while watching OITNB – which might be because the show erases it, or might be because I ID more towards the lesbian side of things, and am particularly looking for that in the show at the moment.…[Read more]
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i feel like Piper experiences bisexuality in a way that is the stereotypical “half gay half straight,” i.e. when she was with Larry, she renounced her “former gayness” (“i used to be a lesbian”) and was cool with being IDed as straight, whereas when she’s with a woman or a non-binary person, she is cool with being IDed as a lesbian. but that’s not…[Read more]
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it does seem funny that the word has never been used, despite at least a few characters off the top of my head sleeping with and/or having romantic feelings for people of multiple genders… seems like they’re more likely to call it “gay for the stay” than to allow a character to own that identity. :/
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I really wish someone in the show would explicitly identify as bi. (Not Piper though, maybe Morello or Brooke).
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It’s like the show doesn’t want anyone to identify as bi (or anything else that’s in the middle) because it’s completely uncool at the moment. Like they’d lose all their queer cred and just be a joke. And like if people don’t talk about bisexuality and just switch between partners of different genders, everyone can just pretend the character is…[Read more]
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Fencestraddlers 8 years, 2 months agoAny queer ladies in straight-appearing partnerships with kids? I don’t have any yet, but I wonder a lot about how/when I would address my sexuality with them since Mommy and Daddy would appear straight. I’m just starting to look for an in-person queer community to participate in, so I don’t have anyone I’d take cues from yet. Would any of you be…[Read more]
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I’m not in this situation, but I know that Faith Cheltenham of BiNetUSA is partnered with a man and they have children — she may have written about this before, and that might be helpful!
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This fits me. My kids are 4 and 7 and I’ve had girlfriends over, but it’s not like I’m making out in front of the kids.
I need to think about casually dropping it into conversations because I don’t want to make it seem like a big deal or secret.
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Right? I’m currently swimming in a bisexual parenting internet rabbit hole (thanks, @internrachel!), and I’m seeing some pieces where people talk about LGBTQI+ parent social groups that include the kids, so that could be one way of normalizing the experience (I think the writer was in the UK and I closed the tab, otherwise I’d link). I also found…[Read more]
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I also like the idea of extending the ideas in the latter half of this (http://everydayfeminism.com/2013/01/gender-neutral-parenting-myths/) to include encouraging critical thinking about the possibilities in our world for orientation as well as gender identity.
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I just be myself and wear what I want but act queer – no matter whether you have on heels or Docs, or a v neck or body con dress, the flirty prolonged eye contact trick generally gives us away! ;)
I think doing different looks with you hair can really make a difference :)
I think it’s still worth it to look queer (if you want to) even if you’re not actively looking. I know for my part that I base a lot of how comfortable I feel in a place on how visible queer and other minoritized people are. Naturally, the more comfortable I feel, the more likely I am to frequent a place and to feel safe in expressing myself. I’m…[Read more]