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Okay. I will make this short because it is the classic “I’m-in-love-with-my-straight-best-friend” scenario. Basically, I am in love with my straight best friend. What the fuck do I do? (I am not out)…(& she has had numerous sexual encounters with girls but I am almost positive that her romantic feelings are strictly for boys).
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what do you want? Do you want to come out to her? Have a sexual encounter with her? Or try and forget about her?
I think the advice stems on what you want or what you think is even a possibility/how she or others may react.
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Maybe you can use your friend status to get a bit more insight into where she’s at in terms of her sexuality? Find out whether she’s romantically attracted to women or not, because if she’s not, there’s sadly not very much you can do to change that.
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Oh, honey. I think just about all of us have been there at one time or another. There’s never a really satisfying answer to this predicament. I agree with Cindy and Dizzy both. You should figure out exactly what it is you want from her. It sounds like she might be open to a fling. Would that be worth it? Some people can handle one night…[Read more]
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Straddlers: There’s a cool local event involving a lot of semifamous authors getting into performance shenanigans. I’d like to ask a girl I met while volunteering to join me, but I don’t wanna be a creeper. What’s the best way of doing this?
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what kind of contact info do you have for her?
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Only Facebook
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Well it sounds like there’s a low chance of being a creeper here… if you’re on good conversational terms just leave a post on her fb asking if she’d like to join you. If you haven’t really talked I’d message her saying something like “Hey, we haven’t talked much but you seem cool… would you like to go to this with me?”
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I’d try chat if you’re both online, otherwise a PM sounds good. I think the best way to think is what would you do/how would you react in her shoes :)
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Awww, thanks! I sent her a facebook message earlier this week, and she was very kind but had to say no cause she had a friend visiting.
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Writing about Canadians straddling America and so on and so forth.
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So I already know there is no answer, but how the he’ll do I stop staring at the straight girl and imagining if I wait patiently enough she will be mine? I mean when she chats with other people I get jealous, which is ridiculous cause she can and should do whatever she wants. I try to be honest with myself and admit i’ve put her on a pedestal and…[Read more]
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Uh, maybe you could start some sort of Really Absorbing Project that required that you Go Places (where she isn’t) and Do Things Constructively and just generally have other things on your mind for a while and then maybe you’ll be out of this feedback loop of unghh. Maybe one of your friends has something you could help with.
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I think we’ve all been there with someone who wasn’t/isn’t interested, they don’t even have to be straight. It sounds like you are honest with yourself about how unrealistic your feelings/attraction may be (but isn’t all attraction like that?). Is there any way you can get to know her/her flaws better to try and kill the attraction?
I usually…[Read more]
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I like this girl, she’s cool. She lives down the street, we talk a lot via text message – but every time I ask her out she blows me off. She’s definitely gay – so it’s not a “questioning her sexuality” thing. She told me I’m intimidating in the witty kind-of way. Ok – so i’m intimidating (not the first time i’ve heard that from a girl). What the…[Read more]
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I don’t want to dash your hopes, but she may just not be interested. I know a lot of women who would rather make excuses than actually just tell someone that they aren’t interested, so it’s worth considering that too. If that’s not the case though, I suggest trying to just hang out with her in a general context, without necessarily the pressure of…[Read more]
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I’m with @discospider… she probably just doesn’t want to ruin the friendship by saying no. But props to you for having the guts to ask her out, perhaps ask her to join you in a group thing where she can bring friends too, something like that? Thenyou’ll def be able to see if you’re getting a friend zone vibe.
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So, I had a feeling she was into me, because she texts me at least once a week – without me texting her or anything. I knew it wasn’t the date nervousness thing because I’ve asked her to cook outs, bbqs, the beach etc. She lives so close that it was weird like – what the heck is up? So I pressed her this week because I was leaving on vacay and
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Ouch ): I wish people could just be upfront about this sort of thing. You ask someone out, they say, ‘you’re amazing, but I’m happily taken’, and the game is over and no-one’s feelings are hurt. It’s just mean for a taken person not to disclose upfront!
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