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BJ replied to the forum topic Abusive relationship in the group
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Hi Paige,
Before I address your relationship know this first: don’t EVER consider suicide an option NO MATTER WHAT! Talk to people on AutoStraddle, call the Trevor Hotline, talk to your best friends and family […] -
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Paige started the forum topic Abusive relationship in the group
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“Numerous studies done between the 1980 and 1994 report that lesbian relationships have higher overall rates of interpersonal aggression (including psychological aggression/emotional abuse) than heterosexual or […]
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Lala posted an update in the group
Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 10 months ago
So I’m completely new and desperately in need of some advice… where on earth do you meet fellow femmes, and how on earth do you know they’re actually gay ?! Is there a secret handshake or something I’m missing ?
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You have to ask. Just think – maybe that hot girl over there is actually gay and too shy to approach you. Maybe she’s afraid you’re not gay.
The only thing you have to fear is maybe an awkward laugh – in my experience most straight women have been flattered by my attentions and very kind in rejecting me.
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in gay bars or parties? I assume everyone there is gay even though women will always ask me if I’m straight, it’s annoying but I suppose it solves things for them, I say look for eye contact and short fingernails.
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Sounds strange but talk to, flirt, and hit on all ladies (young and old) to practice. I practice with ladies working at malls, grocery stores, etc. Brings a smile to their monotonous day and it’s good practice for confidence building. Then when you meet a girl who likes girls, you will be less nervous. A non offending flattering line might be……[Read more]
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DogStraddlers 11 years, 10 months ago
guys I would super appreciate some advice! My dog has been going a bit crazy since my dad has been in the hospital. He paces nonstop carrying his favorite toy in his mouth, obsessively sniffs my father’s bed and the chair he used to sit in to watch television in the evenings. Especially when we come in from walks he walks from room to room until…[Read more]
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Ash posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 11 years, 10 months ago
Coming out during Christmas advice needed.
Over the summer I in fact came out to my parents, who are incredibly Christian/conservative/butawesome. It went well in the fact that they aren’t treating me differently, it went bad in the way that they aren’t about to acknowledge my queerness anytime soon and think that 23 years of life with only one 9…[Read more]
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I really wish this forum program would recognize spaces, because all of that is actually neatly spaced paragraphs instead of a large blob of text.
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Wow. I don’t know that I have any useful advice. Have you considered talking to your parents beforehand and seeing if they’re cool with it? I don’t know if that’s a good idea or not.
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I feel like you have been considerate of your family for awhile now with not coming out to the rest of the family. Maybe this will be a great opportunity to share the news with everyone else at the same time your cousin is going to tell everyone shes been married for a year secretly. I feel like your situation will balance out the other. Might not…[Read more]
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cindy posted an update in the group
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so i moved to London like 4 months ago and have only been able to make one gay friend, how did you find yours? Everyone says to do it online but it’s really difficult that way. If I talk to girls at a lesbian club or night i find they think i’m hitting on them. what should i do? where did you find your bros?
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Hmmm that’s a really good question. Unfortch, no matter how you approach another lez she might think you are hitting on her. I would try maybe joining an athletic team, speaking to girls in bars/clubs, maybe scouting out a queer bookstore or a cafe in a queer neighborhood. Good luck!
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The LGBT organization in my area has groups for various age groups and interests. You might see if you can find anything like that. I recently moved to a new area, and I’ve made several gay friends through that.
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mary posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 11 years, 10 months ago
The parents are the tricky ones. All of my close friends know but I’m too afraid to tell my parents. They’re christian (dad more so than mom) and I’m afraid I’ll become their family secret that they’ll ignore or not acknowledge my sexuality to the rest of the family. Its like there’s never a good time to tell them. I’ve told myself that they must…[Read more]
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Reese posted an update in the group
Twin Cities Straddlers 11 years, 10 months agoYou guys. I’m going to be in the STP for a month. We need some Autostraddle fun times so I don’t go IN-FUCKING-SANE.
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Alissa posted an update in the group
Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 10 months ago
So i have this professor who’s super attractive, nice, and has a great body. We talk almost everyday. She is gay and we have talked about everything with our lives etc. Here is my problem, im starting to have feelings if not already for her. Sometimes i wanna tell her how i feel and then other times i don’t.
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i’d refrain if it were me sounds like the consequences are too great, you’d have to see her all the time, if she likes you she’ll give you signals. try and avoid her or try meet a new girl?
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Yeah, true. I’ m not going to do anything. Shes a good person to talk to for advice. I won’t be seeing her for a month since i have winter break.
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I second refrain…until you graduate. If you two really have a bond, keep in touch and see what happens. :)
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Ya thats pretty much what i did. Lol. We still talk so who knows what will happen.
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You probably did the right thing, but coming from someone who is ALWAYS attracted to powerful/intelligent women (especially when they are gay) professors, I totally feel for you.
I got propositioned by one of my professors that I had that kind of “friendship” with, but both of us decided against it because we would be involved in future classes…[Read more]
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Alissa posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 11 years, 10 months ago
So i am really glad that there is a group for straddlers coming out or plan on coming out. Currently I’m not out. But i have told one person i was gay, shes my college professor. I knew she was gay from day one when i walked into class(Shes gorgeous) and I would always sit in class wondering who to talk to. So one day i finally decided that i…[Read more]
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I think it’s perfectly okay as long as it stays within the realm of fantasy. And actually, professor crushes can often be really good motivators to do extra-well in that class, as I learned my freshman year. The professor I had a crush on then is now writing recommendation letters for me for grad school. I doubt that would be the case if I had…[Read more]
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I agree with the motivation thing. I worked 10x harder this semester to get good grades, especially that class. She is someone to talk to and she always offers to me if i need anything(advice wise) to email her and keep in touch. So i am grateful to have her for advice. It’s a hard adjustment. But it’s getting better. :)
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