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Twin Cities Straddlers 11 years, 8 months agoGuys! Do you like feminist/queer theater? I bet you do. Come see Inherently Human, a play about American women in the twentieth century, written and performed by two awesome Autostraddlers. We would love your support!
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Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 8 months ago
I think I’m going to post this question in a few groups to try to maximize advice… Please comment if you have any thoughts!
I’m a queer cis femme college grad who just started seeing a female-bodied genderqueer person who goes by the pronouns they/their/them. I’m doing my best to get used to using these pronouns, which I consistently do when…[Read more]
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honestly, you’ve answered your own question. really, do just go up to your partner and ask. they’re the only one who’ll know the right answer, and it won’t seem like you’re getting ahead of yourself at all.
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thanks for your advice! i know it’s pretty obvious, but i just didn’t want to… you know… seem like i was falling too hard/too fast by suggesting that i’m talking about them ALL THE TIME. but i think i will just go ahead and ask next time we’re together. thanks again!
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don’t worry about it! if anything, they’ll be flattered that you’re 1) willing to talk about them with your friends (seems like a small gesture, but it means a lot) and 2) concerned about being respectful and doing right by them. you really can’t go wrong here, so go for it!
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Twin Cities Straddlers 11 years, 8 months agoHey lady-lovin ladies, last night was caucus night, did any of you go? I was just gonna say we should all do our part to support opposition to the MN marriage amendment. Did you know that some people don’t even know anything about it? Did you know that all you have to do is start a conversation with someone? You don’t have to debate with anyone or…[Read more]
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Twin Cities Straddlers 11 years, 8 months agoHi! So. I’m relatively new to the area…where would the best places be to go for like…coffee and find cute, gay girls? Or bars? Or…anything, really. :)
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Thanks for your help :) I’ll have to check those cafes out…I’ve been to both Lush (on guys night, though! hahahaha. Oops. ) and the Townhouse. I just need to find some friends to go out with, now. :)
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I’ll have to check that website out! Thanks for your help! :) And is there reallllly such a thing as too crazy of a dancer? ;)
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Straddlers on Coming Out 11 years, 9 months ago
Okay, so I shouldn’t be this scared coming out on freaking Autostraddle but I am because…I am bisexual, and I’m sort of concerned I’m going to be on the receiving end of “why are you trying to come out as bi on a LESBIAN website?” biphobia. Anyway, I’ve made some tiny coming out baby steps last year (working it in to relative conversations with…[Read more]
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You should just go to a meeting, even if you don’t have much to say and it’s awkward at first. What’s to lose? Don’t feel out of place or like you don’t belong because you’re bi–I’ve been out as bi for 10 yrs now (I’m 26) and I know that even when I’m with a straight boyfriend, my life and experiences are still different from a straight person’s…[Read more]
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I went to PFLAG meetings at university because I felt I needed gay identity and to know other gay people. They were so friendly, welcoming, and nice. So did you end up going to any meetings?
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I went to the drop-in centre at my school a couple of times. Even though no one knew how I identified (because no one can really ask), it was awkward because people seemed to know each other and I was out of place. I’m hoping to go to queer orientation week next year, which I was too afraid/discouraged by rain to attend this year.
I’ve gotten…[Read more]
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How about meeting girls online for dates or for friendship only? Sometimes I meet lesbian couples for friendship and maybe they can introduce me to their single friends; plus I get to know more queer people. I belonged to several dating sites before I met my wife. I just looked up to see if there were lots of girls who like girls in Toronto or…[Read more]
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I know that I’m gay, but I’ve been sexually involved with men, and I’m even hetero-married though we have been separated from some time. I am saving up for a divorce, we are on speaking terms and right now $300 to drop on divorce forms at LegalZoom seems so postponable. If there was like, a negative star lesbian rating to give me, I’d get it. I’ve…[Read more]
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Hey, I’d say that you have permission to call yourself a lesbian lesbian if you feel like one. You don’t have to apologize for a heterosexual past. Sexuality is more convoluted than a lot of people think, and there are many people (myself included) who feel that they are no longer comfortable in their assumed sexual identity and need a new “label”…[Read more]
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Wow, thanks for that reply. I like the ‘future intentions’ way of looking at identity. Coolness! Now I can skip off into the sunset! And thanks again!
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Twin Cities Straddlers 11 years, 9 months agoCan we have a meetup and go see Pariah when it hits the Lagoon?
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http://focusfeatures.com/pariah/theatres At the Uptown starting on the 20th
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Whoops. I get the Uptown and the Lagoon confused a lot. But. Who’s down?
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Twin Cities Straddlers 11 years, 9 months agoAnyone got recommendations for good lesbian bars/queer bars that aren’t entirely guys in the Cities? I need a few new ones.
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The Town House on University in St.Paul is great. They have good cheapie nights, $5 for cover but only $1 for a drink. Great times! Also, Lush. But thats usually for the “younger” crowd…not sure which one you fit into but check both out.
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Yeah, the townhouse is pretty good. go there! Lush has ladies night on fridays. And Hell’s Kitchen has been having Soul Friday on the first friday of the month, it’s a queer dance night. lotssss of ladies.
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