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Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 5 months ago
I have an issue. I’m volunteering at this newspaper and there’s a guy who works there part-time. He’s a nice dude, but obvs I’m not into that whole thing. He seems to think we have this connection and he’s constantly flirting with me and telling me he wants to get together at weekends.
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Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 5 months ago
Hello,
I recently started a GSA/QSU/Coalition at my high school. We had a really good turn out for our first meeting, considering my school is really unspirited about most things. I am trying to think of topics that we could discuss at our next meeting. Any suggestions?-
PS: We already talked about how we feel the our school’s environment concerning the LGBT community, although we had an all girl turn out.
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You can talk about who in the group is out and who’s not! In my GSA we always made sure noone inadvertently outed someone in their other social situations by mentioning what they may have said. We also discouraged talking about personal information from GSA outside of GSA.
You can also discuss whether anyone’s facing any hardships like coming…[Read more]
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Thank you. I will keep them in mind.
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I am relocating to the wonder midwest this upcoming fall. Where’s a good location for living (affordable, chill)? Where will I find you all? -
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Straddlers on Coming Out 11 years, 6 months ago
Hey, so I guess I’m looking for advice, I’d love to be all casual and cool coming out to my classmates when it sort-of tangentially comes up in conversation, but I never take the opportunity. Today a classmate was asking me why I didn’t have a boyfriend yet, and I just kind of mumbled and nodded because it felt like my legs were gonna explode. I’m…[Read more]
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I have the same problem. There have been so many opportunities for me to just mention it, but I always clam up. I guess I don’t really have any advice, just commiseration.
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That’s okay! It’s good to know I’m not the only one!
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Oh man, I’ve been there. I went to a Catholic high school (I didn’t even THINK about coming out there) and now I’m at a historically Catholic college within a secular university where a lot of the people are still Catholic or were at least raised that way.
I just have to say that there are some people who are more accepting than you would think,…[Read more]
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some people may not think for a fact that you are straight i know tonss of people who use that question to make sure your really a lesbian and to confirm that the rumors are true you know?
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also i’ve been through the same thing but it helps to just nnot think about what your saying and just blurt out well…im gay and then after that things go one of 2 ways the bad way or the good way which usually means a shit ton of questions :)
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Hey I was having the same problem recently….I kept missing all the obvious cues and was starting to go a bit crazy…in the end I just forced it into the conversation, it was awkward, but its out and I feel better now :) just go for it x
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Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 6 months ago
Hey straddlers so i have a non-straddler question that involves my dad. My dad is quitting smoking and i know this is gonna be crazy hard for him but i was wondering if anyone had any advice to make this easy on him? Like atmosphere wise? If anyone has gone through the process of quitting i could use some advice. I’m so proud of him and thought i…[Read more]
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When my father quit smoking he’d put the money he want to spend on cigarettes and put it in a jar and bought a new stereo with the money. It worked really well, but he didn’t have all that much trouble stopping.
My mother was a different story. She would look for something to fight about, so she could become upset and use it as an excuse to…[Read more]
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Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 7 months ago
I am single again, after breaking up with my first bf (I am bi) and I’m wondering if I should start dating so soon or not. I’m still pretty sad, basically what happened is my bf figured out he was gay and it was frustrating because he’s my best friend and I’ve been crushing on him for years and thought he was THE ONE and all that stuff. I feel…[Read more]
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You could also keep turning him down for weekend get-togethers and it might hit him one day that you’re not interested.
I don’t tell people I’m gay. I let my body language let them know I’m not interested. Usually works.
Some dudes really can’t take a hint, though, especially those who have been nursing a particular crush for a while. You often need to be direct.
Well, you could always use the lie straight girls use – ”I have a boyfriend.”(although of course, this has a lot of potential to backfire)
More seriously, though, I would just be direct and tell him you’re not interested. If you’re worried you might reading too much into his behavior (as I was when I was in this situation a few months ago), just…[Read more]
Well it seems my problem has solved itself. He got a new job. Now I just have to hope that he doesn’t call me every weekend like he said he wanted to.
I don’t mind telling him I’m queer but I just don’t think he’d get it. Ah well. I need not fret any longer.