@melzaq0712
Active 11 years, 5 months ago-
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OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 3 months agoHey everyone. I know this group is mostly designed as a (much needed) place to vent about OkCupid and the frequently annoying and disrespectful people who frequent it, but I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to actually send someone a message? I’m pretty new to this thing and social interaction online is not my forté- I’m not a creeper…[Read more]
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Straddler-on-Straddler advice 12 years, 4 months ago
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We Love Documentaries 12 years, 4 months agoI just watched a recent BBC documentary about the extent of child poverty in the UK called Poor Kids. It was interesting in an angering and upsetting kind of way. The whole thing can be found on youtube if anyone’s interested.
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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 4 months agoJust came across a post at bird of paradox (http://www.birdofparadox.net/blog/?p=10046) detailing some interesting potential developments in the legal and social treatment of intersex people in Germany. Basically members of the German Bundestag and the Alliance 90/The Greens parliamentary group have tabled a motion aiming to expand and defend the…[Read more]
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The Great Library of Autostraddle 12 years, 4 months agoIs it ok to ask for book recommendations here? I’m in the process of starting up a queer reading group at my university and I’d like to have a reading list drafted up before the end of summer/start of term. So I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions? We’re looking for both fiction and non-fiction and books touching various different topics…[Read more]
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Autobiography of Red by Anne Carson, Nightwood by Djuna Barnes, Holding Still for as Long as Possible by Zoe Whittall, Angels in America by Tony Kushner, Anything by Virginia Woolf, I like A Room of One’s Own and Hedwig and the Angry Inch read the play, then you can watch the movie!!
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Thanks! I’m making note of all your suggestions. The last idea is a definite winner with me- any excuse to watch Hedwig and the Angry Inch!
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Also, I forgot Patti Smith – Just Kids is really great.
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And the Band Played On is an incredible history of the early days of the AIDS epidemic, with (obviously) a heavy emphasis on the gay men who were affected. It might be especially appropriate given that we just observed the 30th anniversary of the first AIDS diagnosis.
Call Me By Your Name is also great–one of the hottest books I’ve ever read,…[Read more]-
Thanks for reminding me about And The Band Played On. It was a long time ago when I read it but I learned so much from that book.
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Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides.
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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 4 months agoSo I followed novastar’s suggestion for the avatar change- sorry about the quality but it’s really the best I could get it to look on autostraddle for some reason. I’m conscious, as a cisgender person, of not wanting to appropriate imagery which is associated with the trans* community and that’s absolutely not my intention. What is very much my…[Read more]
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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 5 months agoSo does anyone have any favourite genderstraddly/gender-related books? Fiction and non-fiction. Favourites for me have to include: Whipping Girl by Julia Serano, The Nearest Exit May be Behind You by S. Bear Bergman, Gender Outlaw: on men women and the rest of us by Kate Bornstein, Butch is a Noun by S. Bear Bergman (although that is mostly for…[Read more]
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FICTION. Left Hand of Darkness by Ursula Le Guin. Read it, yo.
Also this short story: http://archiveofourown.org/works/138868-
loved left hand of darkness – also that short story rocks. thanks for linking :)
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I loved Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinburg, because of its historical and personal significance to the author and the glbt rights movement. It’s a genuine story that I related to a lot, but also has some very sad and angering moments. I think everyone needs to read this book, because as much as it would resonate with gay and trans people I think…[Read more]
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Thanks for the recommendation. I’ve been meaning to read Stone Butch Blues for ages now and this only moves it further up my list- I’ll have to suggest it to my queer reading group :)
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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 5 months agoHey everyone, hope your day/evening/night is going well. Just to say if anyone has any suggestions for changing the group avatar feel free to give them in the comments. Personally, I’m getting a little bored of the default right now but let me know what you think. From my own perspective I’d like to avoid anything that suggests the…[Read more]
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What about a very, very androgynous person?
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one of these guys? http://societies.dsu.ca/DalOUT/photos/flagssymbols/trans2/
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Singlestraddlers… Ready to Mingle! 12 years, 5 months ago
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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 5 months agoJust saw this and it made me smile- I thought it might be relevant to your interests :) (I hope the link works alright although I don’t think it will embed or anything- it’s a link to a song called “Fuck Heteronormativity” based on Taylor Swifts “You Belong with Me”) Hope everyone is doing well!
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Okcupid actually did a guide to this! http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/online-dating-advice-exactly-what-to-say-in-a-first-message/ I’d say the point is to find specific things in their profile to discuss. I never know how to respond to a generic ”hey what’s up” or “let’s chat sometime!” (I always think, isn’t this message our “chatting”?)
Thanks, Erda! I didn’t know about that guide and it’s quite interesting. I know I should engage with something specific in a person’s profile/their general interests- I just wish I was less awkward about doing it. Oh well XD
Yeah, it’s hard, because it’s hard to sustain such a specific conversation for so long, I think. But “hey what’s up” “not much how are you” types of conversations don’t go even as far as that, so that’s something to think about.
a lot of times i look for something in their profile that strikes me as weird and i ask them about it. it’s really awkward, but less awkward than looking at their page 4-8 times a week without saying anything