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Rie posted an update in the group
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Straddlers: There’s a cool local event involving a lot of semifamous authors getting into performance shenanigans. I’d like to ask a girl I met while volunteering to join me, but I don’t wanna be a creeper. What’s the best way of doing this?
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what kind of contact info do you have for her?
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Only Facebook
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Well it sounds like there’s a low chance of being a creeper here… if you’re on good conversational terms just leave a post on her fb asking if she’d like to join you. If you haven’t really talked I’d message her saying something like “Hey, we haven’t talked much but you seem cool… would you like to go to this with me?”
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I’d try chat if you’re both online, otherwise a PM sounds good. I think the best way to think is what would you do/how would you react in her shoes :)
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Awww, thanks! I sent her a facebook message earlier this week, and she was very kind but had to say no cause she had a friend visiting.
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So I already know there is no answer, but how the he’ll do I stop staring at the straight girl and imagining if I wait patiently enough she will be mine? I mean when she chats with other people I get jealous, which is ridiculous cause she can and should do whatever she wants. I try to be honest with myself and admit i’ve put her on a pedestal and…[Read more]
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Uh, maybe you could start some sort of Really Absorbing Project that required that you Go Places (where she isn’t) and Do Things Constructively and just generally have other things on your mind for a while and then maybe you’ll be out of this feedback loop of unghh. Maybe one of your friends has something you could help with.
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I think we’ve all been there with someone who wasn’t/isn’t interested, they don’t even have to be straight. It sounds like you are honest with yourself about how unrealistic your feelings/attraction may be (but isn’t all attraction like that?). Is there any way you can get to know her/her flaws better to try and kill the attraction?
I usually…[Read more]
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dutchdyke posted an update in the group
double dutch 12 years, 4 months agoseems like the meetup is gonna be july 23rd
so far its gonna be theflyingdutchwoman, melchan, paloma and myself
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double dutch 12 years, 4 months agoSo.. he! question :) is anybody here buying a t-shirt? can i maybe like, send you money(i totally trust you like that..) and you buy one for me? cause i want one!! but i don’t have a credit card :( so pretty pretty please?? :D
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I think I am going to buy one. Only issue is the store keeps saying sold out and so I have not been able to place an order. Lol
I have the GWK travel pas, which acts as a credit card, so will probably use that. I can let you know by the end of the week, okay?
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I’m totally going to get a shirt. Gonna buy it via Paypal (my gf’s account). Probably by the end of this week when the money arrives ;)
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i just ordered one :D we should wear them to the meetup or pride!!
ik vind geen punt om er een voor jou te bestellen als je me eerst het geld stuurt. ;)
het is $31 inclusief international shipping. dan kan ik em zelfs naar je huis laten sturen!
stuur me even berichtje als je nog wil. het lijkt erop dat er nu alleen nog xs, s en l te krijgen is
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I like this girl, she’s cool. She lives down the street, we talk a lot via text message – but every time I ask her out she blows me off. She’s definitely gay – so it’s not a “questioning her sexuality” thing. She told me I’m intimidating in the witty kind-of way. Ok – so i’m intimidating (not the first time i’ve heard that from a girl). What the…[Read more]
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I don’t want to dash your hopes, but she may just not be interested. I know a lot of women who would rather make excuses than actually just tell someone that they aren’t interested, so it’s worth considering that too. If that’s not the case though, I suggest trying to just hang out with her in a general context, without necessarily the pressure of…[Read more]
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I’m with @discospider… she probably just doesn’t want to ruin the friendship by saying no. But props to you for having the guts to ask her out, perhaps ask her to join you in a group thing where she can bring friends too, something like that? Thenyou’ll def be able to see if you’re getting a friend zone vibe.
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So, I had a feeling she was into me, because she texts me at least once a week – without me texting her or anything. I knew it wasn’t the date nervousness thing because I’ve asked her to cook outs, bbqs, the beach etc. She lives so close that it was weird like – what the heck is up? So I pressed her this week because I was leaving on vacay and
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Ouch ): I wish people could just be upfront about this sort of thing. You ask someone out, they say, ‘you’re amazing, but I’m happily taken’, and the game is over and no-one’s feelings are hurt. It’s just mean for a taken person not to disclose upfront!
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Paloma posted an update in the group
double dutch 12 years, 4 months agoHey ladies!
Wild stab in the dark, since I haven’t been on AS for very long, but I’d like to join you for the meetup, if that’s alright. If AS is this good, then I’d love to find out who you all are. And do ask me stuff if you’re curious about me. :)
And for the meetup, anything inbetween July 10 and July 24 is fine with me.
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Excellent! We will probably switch to private messaging to flesh out the details, once we get the gist of who wants to/can attend. :)
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Lovely. Just bear with me, since I’m still getting the hang of how the whole Groups thing logistics work.
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Could you add me in the personal messaging.. If you picked a date, I can see what I can do, workwise!!
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Alright guys, to start off with, I go to a college church service.
My parents stipulate that if I’m here for the summer I have to go to some kind of service. I don’t mind at all (I’m not incredibly devout, but I believe) and the church I go to is your run of the mill large middle class conservative, non-denominational place. Warehouse size, got…[Read more]-
Do they have Unitarians in tour neck of the woods? If your parents allow it, jump ship and go to a UU service instead. I’d be terrified this guy is going to be all smiles and hugs to my face and “ASH IS A LESBO APOLOGIST KILL THEM WITH FIRE” behind my back.
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I doubt conservative Christians would consider UUs to be “real Christians.” But maybe a more open-minded Protestant denomination?
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There are definitely more liberal branches of traditionally Christian churches–locally I know of Methodist and Anglican (not Episcopalian) churches which are quietly accepting while still appearing to be your run of the mill Protestants if you don’t dig too deep in their websites.
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Oh! And definitely do your research because 1. you may end up with a branch you really love as a result and 2. you have an answer ready if your parents ask why you picked it–“I love the beauty of Episcopalian service” “Calvinist doctrine speaks to me” and so on
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Quakers are a safe bet to be non-homophobic, my experience of Quaker service is that a lot of queers go there because it is welcoming. If you need reasons like the one Rie gives, ‘the simplicity of Quaker worship really allows me to focus on the essentials of my faith’ ;)
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If you want to learn more about scripture from a critical angle I recommend: http://skepticsannotatedbible.com/ They also have a Skeptic’s Annotated Qu’ran and Book of Mormon.
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A really great read is “the God box” by Alex Sanchez, although a work of fiction all the facts are correct as it uses bible passages and historical evidence plus logic to dispell the myth of god hates gays. On his website he also has many links to more evidence for many different religions (including sects of Christianity):
http://www.alexsanchez.com
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