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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 2 months agoOkay, so is it wrong of me to suggest that sex and gender can be unrelated concepts? In that a person’s physical sex doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with their gender presentation?
Because I totes wrote that in my last MA essay and the ‘expert’ on gender theory (she is a professor of women’s writing) at my university disagreed. Apparently…[Read more]-
You’re totally right, in my opinion. I get where people tend to think that they’re related, but that’s because they take what has become a societal norm and assume it’s genetic, like a person’s genitalia. What people don’t realize is that if they went to a different society, they’d find things to be completely different.
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I agree with you, though I’m not clear if you’re talking about the distinction between sex and gender identity (how you think of yourself/how you define your gender) or between sex and gender expression (how you dress/present yourself publicly). You’re still right in either case, though, neither condition is automatically tied to sex. If the…[Read more]
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Well now I’m just wishing I’d argued. But I think I was actually too surprised she thought that to say anything. Sometimes I forget that the rest of the world doesn’t think the way I – and most of AS – do. I get so into this feminist/queer activist internet world that I actually do get surprised when someone has a different opinion. I just thought…[Read more]
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It’s okay, I wasn’t trying to diss you for any lack of clarity, I just wanted to make sure I was giving you an answer actually related to what you’d asked.
And I know what you mean about getting used to being around understanding people – sometimes I use a word like “cisgender” in conversation and am honestly puzzled by the blank looks I get in…[Read more]-
Yeah I knew you weren’t being snarky or anything.
It really frustrates me that these issues/terminology aren’t widely known or accepted. I mean, my friends, who are otherwise intelligent and liberal people, have no idea what I’m talking about when I bring up heterosexism or benevolent sexism etc. And it also frustrates me that ‘heterosexism’ gets…[Read more]-
There’s a really excellent explanation of this stuff here: http://tranarchism.com/2010/11/26/not-your-moms-trans-101/ I certainly use it for various arguments I get into!
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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 3 months agoHello lovely straddlers :) I hope you’re all doing well.
So….hair. Do you have feelings about it? It seems like such a very gendered thing. Personally I have really long hair. As in down to my ass kind of hair. I’ve more or less always had it like this and I like this way. Sometimes though it just seems to fall down my back like a big shiny…[Read more]-
I know what you mean about hair being such a strong influence in how people gender you – personally, my upbringing has given me a skewed outlook on the gender of hair. The two constantly long-haired people I saw growing up were my dad and my closest-in-age guy cousin, and my very female best friend got a buzz cut as soon as she broke free of her…[Read more]
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I tend not to categorize other people based on their hair (I agree with Cricket, it’s more of a cultural thing) but from personal experience it’s a huge indicator for most societies. I’ve had short hair since 2006. Mostly when I’m in contact with any customer service – shops, airport security, hotel check-in, takeout counters – everyone calls me…[Read more]
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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 3 months agoSo my area had our Pride festival yesterday, which started at 6:45 am and did not end until 4:00 am this morning. It was pretty awesome, but I had one problem. I had a LOT of gay guys hit on me!! [I’m a girl, and didn’t think I was THAT androgynous looking until last night] My feelings are mixed, somewhere in between being flattered and really…[Read more]
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I had a 40 year old gay man hit on me at a gay bar recently. At first I was a bit flattered, then he became super creepy and kept sending his friends over to talk to me. Apparently my voice did not give me away and he became more of a creeper until my friend posed as my boyfriend.
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Oh I’m glad it’s not just me. LOL on having your friend pose…was said friend a girl or a guy [or other]?
Because two girls pretending to be gay boyfriends tickles me for some reason :P I think I just get a kick out of gender bending.-
Well, he’s a transman and I guess I was being perceived as male, so we were seen as a gay couple? Who knows though, gender is confusing!
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Gender IS confusing! I find I do best when I don’t try to label myself too specifically or think about it too much…which I should/am trying to do at the moment lol.
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Haha, I’ve run into this a couple times too. Wandering around the gay village in Toronto when I had just recently moved into the area, I found myself being checked out by gay men when I walked by. It was a little unsettling haha. But I think that was arguably more tolerable than this weekend when I got hit on by a high school freshman girl……[Read more]
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