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Christine Spencer posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 12 years, 2 months ago
My morning should be interesting. I am meeting with our affirmative action director because apparently I am the only trans-woman to ever come out and ask what work had for policies about transitioning.
I have been told they want to work with me on creating written policies. Beyond ‘we don’t discriminate against …’ which they have on the…[Read more]
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Traci posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 3 months agoOKCupid used to be so good years ago, but now it’s just full of lazy, horny guys. I must get 5 messages a week from guys who are clearly copying and pasting the same message to everyone, usually with some text that indicates they didn’t read my profile. Sigh.
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Jesus, yeah, I know what you mean! I haven’t had an account for quite a year yet, but I started out allowing straight people to see my profile and I was constantly bombarded with absurd e-mails from horny straight guys constantly. Then I realized I could make it so straight people couldn’t see me and now… all is silent. I guess it’s kind of nice…[Read more]
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Savannah posted an update in the group
Folks with kids 12 years, 3 months ago
Hi, glad to see there are a few others out there with kids too! I have one 7 yr old son !
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Lucy posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 3 months agoHey everyone. I know this group is mostly designed as a (much needed) place to vent about OkCupid and the frequently annoying and disrespectful people who frequent it, but I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to actually send someone a message? I’m pretty new to this thing and social interaction online is not my forté- I’m not a creeper…[Read more]
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Okcupid actually did a guide to this! http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/online-dating-advice-exactly-what-to-say-in-a-first-message/ I’d say the point is to find specific things in their profile to discuss. I never know how to respond to a generic ”hey what’s up” or “let’s chat sometime!” (I always think, isn’t this message our “chatting”?)
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Thanks, Erda! I didn’t know about that guide and it’s quite interesting. I know I should engage with something specific in a person’s profile/their general interests- I just wish I was less awkward about doing it. Oh well XD
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Yeah, it’s hard, because it’s hard to sustain such a specific conversation for so long, I think. But “hey what’s up” “not much how are you” types of conversations don’t go even as far as that, so that’s something to think about.
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a lot of times i look for something in their profile that strikes me as weird and i ask them about it. it’s really awkward, but less awkward than looking at their page 4-8 times a week without saying anything
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Mareika posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 3 months agocan i just tell you guys, i had this really great date with this adorable girl last week. she texted me saying we should do it again. i invited her out tuesday night, she said yes, then said no, she’s on a budget this week. i think i know that means she doesn’t want to see me, but i liked her so much, and we almost kissed, and i swear to god it…[Read more]
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Rinnie posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 3 months agoSooo I just offended someone with my scatterbrained ways. Sometimes I will see that I’ve received a message and think, “Cool, I’ll check back on that later” and then completely forget about it. Well, that’s what happened recently, and I felt guilty at first and, in my sometimes too blunt way, acknowledged how annoying this could be and suggested…[Read more]
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I do this too, with messages. Never sure how to deal with it.
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Yeah, my problem is that I know myself too well to say that I’ll never do it again, which seemed to be what the other person wanted to hear. I’m sure it made her feel like I didn’t care about her or the conversation, but in reality I’m just a forgetful idiot sometimes.
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Well if she takes everything personally probs it’s better that she goes off and does her own thing anyway.
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Jenna91345 posted an update in the group
Folks with kids 12 years, 3 months ago
I have a four month old little boy. And let me tell ya… It is hard coming out as a lesbian when you have a child so young. Seems no woman wants to touch that issue around here.
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Everything went really well. They had done a lot of research and for the most part hit all the right notes.
I’m really glad to hear all of this, thanks for being so brave and sharing, I’m sure your contribution will only help to further improve society :)