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hey friends how is the new day treating you all? Peace
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This whole men-posing-as-lesbian-bloggers thing has filled me with such a deep, burning rage that I had to rant: http://buzzcutsandbustiers.com/2011/06/14/i-solemnly-swear-that-i-am-a-real-live-dyke/
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Hey, I just commented this on Annika and Sebastian’s recent post, but maybe y’all have some ideas: What do you think is the best way to respond to transphobic harassment? I’m butch/genderqueer and have heard “are you a guy” or “is that a boy or a girl” from strangers several times recently, and I always struggle with how or if to respond.…[Read more]
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Fellow Bostonian butch here! I don’t really have advice, but I do have empathy, as I encountered a situation like this during Pride this year. I was told by a transwoman “if you ever decide to actually transition into being a man instead of just dressing like one, you’ll find that life is harder.” It was so dismissive and assuming and generally…[Read more]
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Yeah, that’s generally how I responded to sexual harassment as a teenager, back when I was still trying to pass as feminine, and it’s honestly my instinctive response to any kind of aggressive harassment. Because you’re right, people tend to back off if you fight back–usually even a firm “fuck you” is enough.
But sometimes I just get kinda…[Read more]
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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 3 months agoHey, I just commented this on Annika and Sebastian’s recent post, but maybe y’all have some ideas: What do you think is the best way to respond to transphobic harassment? I’m butch/genderqueer and have heard “are you a guy” or “is that a boy or a girl” from strangers several times, and I always struggle with how or if to respond.…[Read more]
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I have two standard answers for this depending on my mood.
1. Are you hitting on me?
2. Dont worry , we won’t be having sex.-
Ha! Good ones.
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I often wish I had a better way of dealing with harassment. Although I’m subjected more to “general” street harassment and all-round skeevy sexual inappropriateness than anything specifically transphobic. Unfortunately the only response I’ve come up with is to put my head down, make myself as small as possible and keep walking. So I’m no help…[Read more]
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If you feel threatened, just ignore them/walk away. No sense trying to educate the belligerent. In a safe situation, I have used a few times: “I am both and neither, and like it that way”
I haven’t gotten into any fights so far :) Worst response I’ve gotten is a Deer In Headlights Look which made me chuckle.
I often just say “Nope, I’m a…[Read more]
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I usually go with “are you a bigoted asshole or just an idiot?” It may not be the most appropriate response, but it works for me!
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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 3 months agoI was told that my plans for a fauxhawk were “too boyish.”
The only way to express my feelings at this statement looks kind of like this: GJDSALKGJDAKLGJSRVQDQQRRGEGRE
It comes from pounding my fists on the keyboard in a clackity expresson of rage which I cannot verbalize. Efforts to verbalize it sound similar to a phonetic pronunciation of the…[Read more]
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Fuck that shit! Get your hair did whatever way you want! Plus, I just cut mine in a “boyish” style and all I’ve gotten since have been compliments…mostly because *I* feel great about how I look now and confidence totally shows to others.
(Although, that said, I waited until AFTER the big reunion with the conservative heterosexist Southern…[Read more]
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I agree with bookbound. Plus if you decide to go for the fauxhawk I am pretty much 100% certain that it will look awesome (because fauxhawks generally are pretty awesome).
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I did iiiiit. It is amazing. I can either be sexy or pretend to be a velociraptor, and those are the two things on my haircut checksheet.
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I went to a queer fashion show on Wednesday and there were some really great designers there that are making masculine clothing for female and FTM bodies. Marimacho was my fave of the night. Here’s a list of the designers and my reviews of them:…[Read more]
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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 3 months agoJust came across a post at bird of paradox (http://www.birdofparadox.net/blog/?p=10046) detailing some interesting potential developments in the legal and social treatment of intersex people in Germany. Basically members of the German Bundestag and the Alliance 90/The Greens parliamentary group have tabled a motion aiming to expand and defend the…[Read more]
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