So, women are confusing. I apologize in advance for this likely very long-winded and complicated query…

I have been “seeing” (not even sure if this an accurate term) this girl for a little over a month now. We met at a gay bar and we started out as just going out together, which later turned into that plus hanging out together ie: watching a movie together or, hell, I even cooked her dinner one night. We totally have chemistry – plus, I think we have enough in common for things to go somewhere.

Two weeks ago I kinda sprung the “What is going on between us?” question on her after witnessing another girl flirting with her and getting extremely jelly and thinking, “Omigosh, do I even have the right to be jelly? Do I have some kind of claim over her?” She responded something about how she really likes me, she thinks we’re fine at the pace we are going, most of her relationships with women are usually drunken one-night stands etc. Cool, okay. I can respect that. And it made me feel better to at least know what direction to be traveling. So we cuddled in my bed and everything is gravy.

Cut to last weekend. I meet up with her at some bar and then we decide to go to a different one to meet up with her roommate. Roommate is suddenly somewhere else with an upset friend, so she decides to run off and meet up with her. At some point during the night, she leaves her phone in her friend’s car and he drives thirty miles away.

I am freaking out for three days because she hasn’t responded to any of my texts or calls. Thank god I fixed my laptop and saw her Facebook post saying, “Lost my phone… get a hold of me here.” Phew. Worried over nothing.

Except it’s been a week since I’ve talked to her – and we used to at least text each other every day. I sent her a fb message two days ago asking if she was still without a phone, but received no response – even though I could clearly tell by her “liking” someone’s post that she had been logged on recently and therefore should have seen my message. (God, I hate how you stir up drama, Facebook!)

It’s driving me crazy. I don’t understand what’s going on – she can’t hate me if she added my roommate as a friend during all this time, right? I just want to call her and ask if I did something wrong, but I don’t want to seem clingy or stalker-y. But I also want to be honest, and I hate playing games even when I feel like I’m being played with.

For my sanity alone, something needs to happen. Thoughts?