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Julie K. posted an update in the group
Straddle your Feminism 12 years, 3 months ago
I’m writing a horror screenplay. There’s a part where a Professor is dumped by his girlfriend. The Professor in a rage grabs a vial of monster blood and stabs it into her neck thus turning her into a monster. It’s horrific and awful, but the professor gets killed by the end of the screenplay and it all has a thematic point to it.
I was telling this part of the screenplay to two male buddies of mine (both in their mid-forties). After I told them this part, they said, “Yeah, that’s what she gets.” They clapped and cheered.
Their reaction disturbed me and I quickly changed the subject. Thoughts?
Well, first of all, congrats to you on not immediately shooting your friends in the face. There are always some people who will read the most disturbing shit into your work no matter what you do, just because they’re seeing everything through their own poison lens. But when your screenplay is made, just be sure it’s clear that this *isn’t* “what she gets” and he’s the evil asshole. Context is key (y’know, for non-awful people).
Also, maybe you should look into getting new friends because that…has a lot of disturbing implications.
Yeah, pretty much what Raksha said. It does seem disturbing that they’re so happy about that kinda thing.
Yeah, it was a creepy experience.
I hope I don’t sound like a complete push over when I say that one of these guys in other respects is a pretty nice guy.
He actual co-produced my no-budget (yet extremely awesome) indie lesbian movie that I’m working on right now to the extent that the movie would not have been made if it wasn’t for his help. The film’s in post-production.
So, it’s weird, because in some respects he’s one of the nicest guys I know, but this sexism comes out of him from time to time that creeps me out, in which I just change the subject. I guess next time I can say in a jokey manner, “Ha! ha! You know, that’s actually kind of creepy,” something like that. I don’t know.
Ooh, and indie lesbian movie? Definitely let us know when your movie is done!
Re: your friends disturbing flashes of misogyny. Yeah, I know what you mean. I’ve had friends like that. I always felt guilty and icky if I didn’t say *something* in response to those little incidents and I like to think that gave them something to think about. But that’s just me.
I agree. Sometimes I’m a chicken and opt out of any kind of confrontation. However, it’s better to say something or mention if someone’s being misogynist or homophobic. I gotta be more gutsy.
I don’t have so much of a problem with the misogyny, but I get a lot of homophobia and find it very hard to say something. I usually feel bit ‘:o’ by it and by the time I’ve found a response the conversation has moved on.
First off, the movie sounds like it will be amazing. Secondly, comments from the guys, not cute. That would have started a war between me and them. I always speak up about stuff like that. I would definitely tell them something about that. They might not even realize what they’re actually saying.