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Genderstraddlers 11 years, 6 months agoThis is a not-entirely-related post, but is there anyone here who lives in/has lived in/knows someone who lives/has lived in Indianapolis? I really want to write a queer city guide for Indy, but not sure I can do it by myself. I’d really love to collaborate if you think you can help out. Thank you!!!!
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Genderstraddlers 11 years, 7 months agoHey Straddlers! Long time no post. This is an old video so I’m aware some of you may have seen it before but I just recently stumbled across it and thought I’d share. In it, Tobi Hill-Meyer talks about her experiences as a butch trans woman and discusses issues of transmisogyny and femmephobia.
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I am single again, after breaking up with my first bf (I am bi) and I’m wondering if I should start dating so soon or not. I’m still pretty sad, basically what happened is my bf figured out he was gay and it was frustrating because he’s my best friend and I’ve been crushing on him for years and thought he was THE ONE and all that stuff. I feel…[Read more]
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Sorry, I have not been around. I’ve been spending most of my free time in Skyrim.
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Genderstraddlers 11 years, 7 months agoHello everyone! I’m new to Auto. This group appears to a perfect fit for me.
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Yay! I’m glad you think so. It’s been a little quiet ’round these parts of late- if I ever get out from under this pile of uni work I might actually get around to posting something again. You should of course feel free to post about anything gender-related that piques your interest :)
Also, welcome to Autostraddle!
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I think I’m going to post this question in a few groups to try to maximize advice… Please comment if you have any thoughts!
I’m a queer cis femme college grad who just started seeing a female-bodied genderqueer person who goes by the pronouns they/their/them. I’m doing my best to get used to using these pronouns, which I consistently do when…[Read more]
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honestly, you’ve answered your own question. really, do just go up to your partner and ask. they’re the only one who’ll know the right answer, and it won’t seem like you’re getting ahead of yourself at all.
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thanks for your advice! i know it’s pretty obvious, but i just didn’t want to… you know… seem like i was falling too hard/too fast by suggesting that i’m talking about them ALL THE TIME. but i think i will just go ahead and ask next time we’re together. thanks again!
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don’t worry about it! if anything, they’ll be flattered that you’re 1) willing to talk about them with your friends (seems like a small gesture, but it means a lot) and 2) concerned about being respectful and doing right by them. you really can’t go wrong here, so go for it!
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Lindsay posted an update in the group
Genderstraddlers 11 years, 8 months agoI think I’m going to post this question in a few groups to try to maximize advice… Please comment if you have any thoughts!
I’m a queer cis femme college grad who just started seeing a female-bodied genderqueer person who goes by the pronouns they/their/them. I’m doing my best to get used to using these pronouns, which I consistently do when…[Read more]
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Well, as someone who is only out to some people as trans, I ask people when I tell them about me to continue using my old name and pronouns in public. My guess then for you would to be continuing using female pronouns until you’re able to talk with them about it.
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Nikki, thank you for your advice! I thought I had responded but apparently not–sorry! See my response to smartypants below if you’re interested in how things turned out… thanks again for your input.
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I maybe a little late to this party but wanted to lend some support–and also, applaud both your sensitivity and sense of politeness. I’m a big fan of being polite! Perhaps since your original comment was about a month ago, you’d be willing to let us know how it evolved for you?–what did you decide? How did you choose to negotiate this?–hope all is well.
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Hey! Sorry for the slow response… saw this at work last week and didn’t get to reply. I ended up finally talking to the person about the pronoun question a couple weeks ago. They told me that they prefer for me/people to use their pronouns (they/their) in the company of others, since using she/her can create an uncomfortable disconnect on the…[Read more]
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Well done Lindsay for having that conversation with your friend–and if I remember correctly, a romantic friend, n’est ce pas? In which case, I hope it’s going well…..
W/r/t friends who keep blowing it with the pronouns–I think calling on it “in the moment” (no Italics!) is probs the way I would go. Like small children and puppies, training…[Read more]
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