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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 3 months agoSo my area had our Pride festival yesterday, which started at 6:45 am and did not end until 4:00 am this morning. It was pretty awesome, but I had one problem. I had a LOT of gay guys hit on me!! [I’m a girl, and didn’t think I was THAT androgynous looking until last night] My feelings are mixed, somewhere in between being flattered and really…[Read more]
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I had a 40 year old gay man hit on me at a gay bar recently. At first I was a bit flattered, then he became super creepy and kept sending his friends over to talk to me. Apparently my voice did not give me away and he became more of a creeper until my friend posed as my boyfriend.
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Oh I’m glad it’s not just me. LOL on having your friend pose…was said friend a girl or a guy [or other]?
Because two girls pretending to be gay boyfriends tickles me for some reason :P I think I just get a kick out of gender bending.-
Well, he’s a transman and I guess I was being perceived as male, so we were seen as a gay couple? Who knows though, gender is confusing!
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Gender IS confusing! I find I do best when I don’t try to label myself too specifically or think about it too much…which I should/am trying to do at the moment lol.
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Haha, I’ve run into this a couple times too. Wandering around the gay village in Toronto when I had just recently moved into the area, I found myself being checked out by gay men when I walked by. It was a little unsettling haha. But I think that was arguably more tolerable than this weekend when I got hit on by a high school freshman girl……[Read more]
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bookbound posted an update in the group
Genderstraddlers 12 years, 4 months agoHey, I just commented this on Annika and Sebastian’s recent post, but maybe y’all have some ideas: What do you think is the best way to respond to transphobic harassment? I’m butch/genderqueer and have heard “are you a guy” or “is that a boy or a girl” from strangers several times, and I always struggle with how or if to respond.…[Read more]
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I have two standard answers for this depending on my mood.
1. Are you hitting on me?
2. Dont worry , we won’t be having sex.-
Ha! Good ones.
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I often wish I had a better way of dealing with harassment. Although I’m subjected more to “general” street harassment and all-round skeevy sexual inappropriateness than anything specifically transphobic. Unfortunately the only response I’ve come up with is to put my head down, make myself as small as possible and keep walking. So I’m no help…[Read more]
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If you feel threatened, just ignore them/walk away. No sense trying to educate the belligerent. In a safe situation, I have used a few times: “I am both and neither, and like it that way”
I haven’t gotten into any fights so far :) Worst response I’ve gotten is a Deer In Headlights Look which made me chuckle.
I often just say “Nope, I’m a…[Read more]
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I usually go with “are you a bigoted asshole or just an idiot?” It may not be the most appropriate response, but it works for me!
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Toby posted an update in the group
Genderstraddlers 12 years, 4 months agoI was told that my plans for a fauxhawk were “too boyish.”
The only way to express my feelings at this statement looks kind of like this: GJDSALKGJDAKLGJSRVQDQQRRGEGRE
It comes from pounding my fists on the keyboard in a clackity expresson of rage which I cannot verbalize. Efforts to verbalize it sound similar to a phonetic pronunciation of the…[Read more]
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Fuck that shit! Get your hair did whatever way you want! Plus, I just cut mine in a “boyish” style and all I’ve gotten since have been compliments…mostly because *I* feel great about how I look now and confidence totally shows to others.
(Although, that said, I waited until AFTER the big reunion with the conservative heterosexist Southern…[Read more]
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I agree with bookbound. Plus if you decide to go for the fauxhawk I am pretty much 100% certain that it will look awesome (because fauxhawks generally are pretty awesome).
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I did iiiiit. It is amazing. I can either be sexy or pretend to be a velociraptor, and those are the two things on my haircut checksheet.
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