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To all question bi-dar and gaydar related.
I generally tend to flirt or what’s wrong with a straight up asking someone? Just go for someone you think is hot, you have nothing to lose esp if they are giving you the signals.-
Except sometimes they’ll flirt with you for an hour and then mention their girlfriend. It’s annoying and awkward, but nobody ever died of awkward. :D
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I’m just super lucky and end up hitting on girls in front of their girlfriends like 90% of the time. I’ve even given a girl a rose in front of her girlfriend :P
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Once, I went to a lesbian dance night for a friend of a friend’s birthday. I had a little bouquet of flowers from my garden as a gift for the birthday girl, and a super-hot chick asks me for one. Thinking she was flirting, I handed off a sprig. Then she told me she was straight….
….and then she asked her friends if they’d seen a girl named…[Read more]
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I have def wanted to, though ;)
I guess you have to be comfortable outing yourself to someone who might be straight and be uncomfortable with lady love or being hit on by another woman. I live in a smaller city where it’s very difficult to do stuff like that without it becoming common gossip amongst my ‘circles’, maybe it’d be easier for people…[Read more]
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Help, I am bad at dating girls.
I’m crushing on a girl who I know slightly (she’s a first year, and I am an officer in the upperclass house that is supposed to help them have fun–obviously college students need help with that) and I’ve hung out with her a bit and at our formal she got ditched by her friends and I got her to dance with my group…[Read more]-
I personally think the more pertinent question is: if she were to return your affections and you Autostraddled in some form, would you get in trouble? If the answer is yes, wait. If the answer is no, proceed with caution. Either way, you could at least try to get to know her a little better? Maybe you’ll end up really clicking and get gay married…[Read more]
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I think when we suspect that someone likes us back, we’re usually right, it’s just harder to see when you’re involved. But either way I agree get to know her better. Add her on fb and chat or just ask her to coffee, in a super friendly way, get to know the vibes. But also I agree with @kdizzle about the considering the consequences.
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allie posted an update in the group
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also bi-dar question: go see my answer to the person asking about gaydar. i dont go for overly stereotypical girls, and there are just as many bisexual girls who look like “lesbians”, so yeah, its tricky.
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allie posted an update in the group
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why is reply not working properly…
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Rose posted an update in the group
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Question I have for everyone: How does BI-DAR work? I’m bi and apparently all my friends, at least the queer ones, knew it before I did. I get gay-dar since it often has to do with stereotypes (effeminate dudes, girls with alternative lifestyle haircuts) but what are those signs for bis? The only stereotype I know of for bi girls is the…[Read more]
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Okay, it won’t let me reply, but in response to the last post: You’re not overreacting, you’re totally right to be offended by people calling you that. But I don’t think you should kill him. A lot of people don’t realize that using words like “dyke” and “fag” in an affectionate, non-offensive way is mostly exclusive to members of the team, and…[Read more]
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thanks. :)
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You’re welcome. Here’s a good link that explains it: http://chronos-tachyon.net/mirror/io.com/s3chap5.html in case you’re having trouble.
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aight y’all. l.a. noire. go.
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I’m watching the walkthroughs for LA Noire (http://www.youtube.com/TheMediaCows) and it’s pretty good. Then again, I love stories in games (Heavy Rain, Phoenix Wright, Metal Gear Solid) and I love Grand Theft Auto and LA Noire is GTA + solving crime! I need to play this game!
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I want to looker gayer, am sick to death of being hit on by guys. Not that I want to pick up girls, as I have a beautiful girlfriend, I just want some way of giving off a visible queer vibe but without embracing the butch-y aesthetic, as it would look ridic on someone like me. HELP!
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gay tee-shirt? rainbow bracelets? But doesn’t having a girlfriend make you look more gay?
After an initial coming out period of shane-like dressing, but a current femme, I can only advise to stay true to yourself and don’t cut off your hair you will regret it :P
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if you’re just looking to get dudes to stop hitting on you, as a definitely gay looking sorta butchy type gal, i can tell you, it won’t work. i still get that shit. maybe not as much as a superfemme might, but it still happens.
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Perfect your bitchface, the look of “I’m the only person in the world so you better STEP OFF or I’ll make you sorry you looked in my direction”–New Yorkers and Roman girls do it really well.
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THIS. It’s all in the attitude. Also, posture. Stand up tall and put on your bitchface. Works better than any plaid shirt will.
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I have a tongue piercing, I think it makes me being gay more believable.
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This is a toughie – if you figure it out, let me know! All I can recommend is that you take up space. No shrinking! If you’re sick of being hit on by dudes, be bold and speak confidently and directly, so that nothing you do or say will be misinterpreted as flirting. Just got to get your “Don’t fuck with me” face on!
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just wear visible headphones in public, it pretty much says “i am ignoring everything around me that i am not directly looking at”. works like a charm.
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Just finished the single-player campaign in Portal 2. THAT ENDING. I have no words. Where is my HL2e3, damn it?!
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Okay, I know this isn’t exactly AS expertise because we’re queer ladies etc, but my friend has a friend who has recently come out as a gay male and he needs help. I volunteered to martial queer media/books/movies/websites for him. He’s currently struggling a lot with the feminine issue- that gay males are read as feminine and he doesn’t feel he…[Read more]
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The books How I Paid for College and Attack of the Theatre People by Marc Acito deal with this–the narrator struggles with being a queer dude who loves theatre, but also feeling uncomfortable around stereotypical gay men.
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neil patrick harris and t.r. knight are handsome successful gay dudes who are clean cut and well dressed but not very flamboyant in their public behavior. i consider them quite masculine. and quite attractive. just saying.
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allie posted an update in the group
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i might as well set up a tent here cause i -love- giving advice (psychology student cliche)
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