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CatD posted an update in the group Straddler-on-Straddler advice 11 years, 6 months ago

I have an issue. I’m volunteering at this newspaper and there’s a guy who works there part-time. He’s a nice dude, but obvs I’m not into that whole thing. He seems to think we have this connection and he’s constantly flirting with me and telling me he wants to get together at weekends.
The major issue is that he’s from a country where queers…[Read more]

Sharks replied 11 years, 6 months ago

You could also keep turning him down for weekend get-togethers and it might hit him one day that you’re not interested.

I don’t tell people I’m gay. I let my body language let them know I’m not interested. Usually works.
- Rose replied 11 years, 6 months ago
  
  Some dudes really can’t take a hint, though, especially those who have been nursing a particular crush for a while. You often need to be direct.
Rose replied 11 years, 6 months ago

Well, you could always use the lie straight girls use – ”I have a boyfriend.”(although of course, this has a lot of potential to backfire)

More seriously, though, I would just be direct and tell him you’re not interested. If you’re worried you might reading too much into his behavior (as I was when I was in this situation a few months ago), just…[Read more]
- CatD replied 11 years, 6 months ago
  
  Well it seems my problem has solved itself. He got a new job. Now I just have to hope that he doesn’t call me every weekend like he said he wanted to.
  I don’t mind telling him I’m queer but I just don’t think he’d get it. Ah well. I need not fret any longer.

Sara replied 10 years, 8 months ago

What does exiled mean? Do they actually kick people off?
- Rush replied 10 years, 8 months ago
  
  Poor choice of words. I essentially mean that after being there for a while, I have several times nominated my own exile.
Rush replied 10 years, 8 months ago

Definitely kicking for the right people. What I’ve noticed is that communities that are not well represented on more popular dating sites like OKC, tend to etch out niches in places like downelink. While I will not (ever, ever, ever) find more than the 5 people in Jamaica on OKC, each of which have at most 50% match and at least 50% enemy with me,…[Read more]

Val replied 11 years, 6 months ago

PS: We already talked about how we feel the our school’s environment concerning the LGBT community, although we had an all girl turn out.
- Ameera replied 11 years, 6 months ago
  
  You can talk about who in the group is out and who’s not! In my GSA we always made sure noone inadvertently outed someone in their other social situations by mentioning what they may have said. We also discouraged talking about personal information from GSA outside of GSA.
  
  You can also discuss whether anyone’s facing any hardships like coming…[Read more]
  - Val replied 11 years, 6 months ago
    
    Thank you. I will keep them in mind.

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