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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 4 months agoHey, I just commented this on Annika and Sebastian’s recent post, but maybe y’all have some ideas: What do you think is the best way to respond to transphobic harassment? Iβm butch/genderqueer and have heard βare you a guyβ or βis that a boy or a girlβ from strangers several times, and I always struggle with how or if to respond.…[Read more]
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I have two standard answers for this depending on my mood.
1. Are you hitting on me?
2. Dont worry , we won’t be having sex.-
Ha! Good ones.
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I often wish I had a better way of dealing with harassment. Although I’m subjected more to “general” street harassment and all-round skeevy sexual inappropriateness than anything specifically transphobic. Unfortunately the only response I’ve come up with is to put my head down, make myself as small as possible and keep walking. So I’m no help…[Read more]
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If you feel threatened, just ignore them/walk away. No sense trying to educate the belligerent. In a safe situation, I have used a few times: “I am both and neither, and like it that way”
I haven’t gotten into any fights so far :) Worst response I’ve gotten is a Deer In Headlights Look which made me chuckle.
I often just say “Nope, I’m a…[Read more]
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I usually go with βare you a bigoted asshole or just an idiot?β It may not be the most appropriate response, but it works for me!
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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 4 months agoI was told that my plans for a fauxhawk were “too boyish.”
The only way to express my feelings at this statement looks kind of like this: GJDSALKGJDAKLGJSRVQDQQRRGEGRE
It comes from pounding my fists on the keyboard in a clackity expresson of rage which I cannot verbalize. Efforts to verbalize it sound similar to a phonetic pronunciation of the…[Read more]
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Fuck that shit! Get your hair did whatever way you want! Plus, I just cut mine in a “boyish” style and all I’ve gotten since have been compliments…mostly because *I* feel great about how I look now and confidence totally shows to others.
(Although, that said, I waited until AFTER the big reunion with the conservative heterosexist Southern…[Read more]
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I agree with bookbound. Plus if you decide to go for the fauxhawk I am pretty much 100% certain that it will look awesome (because fauxhawks generally are pretty awesome).
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I did iiiiit. It is amazing. I can either be sexy or pretend to be a velociraptor, and those are the two things on my haircut checksheet.
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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 4 months agoJust came across a post at bird of paradox (http://www.birdofparadox.net/blog/?p=10046) detailing some interesting potential developments in the legal and social treatment of intersex people in Germany. Basically members of the German Bundestag and the Alliance 90/The Greens parliamentary group have tabled a motion aiming to expand and defend the…[Read more]
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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 4 months agoI feel like lots of girls who aren’t pulling off the more traditional feminine styles that society has assigned them might be happier dressing/presenting themselves more masculinely? I know this was the case for me. I was taught to have long hair and wear skirts and I absolutely despised it, so I was subsequently pretty awkward looking as an…[Read more]
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Heh I can totally second you on the whole being an awkward looking adolescent thing. If I never see another photograph of myself as an early teen it’ll be too soon xD Not that I’m always sure that I’m pulling off my newer ‘look’ any better but at least I don’t always -feel- as awkward and that helps. I think that if you feel more comfortable with…[Read more]
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Genderstraddlers 12 years, 4 months agosomeone left this comment on my YouTube page: “I’ll bet you are a big hulking bull dagger diesel dyke. a real monster! [classist rape joke redacted]!!!!!!!!”
I’m not entirely sure why. I mean, occasionally I get wasted and troll homophobes, which gets me trolled right back, but I am almost positive that I did nothing (other than exist) to…[Read more]
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Ugh I am so sorry that happened to you! What an absolutely vile comment. Of course no amount of trolling homophobes would have justified that reaction even if you had done it but unfortunately I think a lot of the time our mere existence really is enough to set these kind of people off. The point you raise about the treatment of different kinds of…[Read more]
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i agree with this. i generally try to take xyz-phobic comments, be it based on race/culture/class/gender/sexuality/etc., as an indicator of what they perceive as threatening (because otherwise life would just be a bowl of slightly moldy cherries rather than just cherries. mm, cherries). and well it is irritating in a way that there is this…[Read more]
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I feel like I’m not going to appear nearly as eloquent or wordy as Lucy, but anyway:
Basically every day some asshat at my school yells at me, “You look like Justin Bieber!” Of course, I respond positively. I’ve had my pictures submitted to that tumblr. I just hate that they say this in a derogative manner.
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It’s virtually never a good idea to compare whether one form of oppression is worse than another, especially because–newsalert–they’re often related. The same cultural mores and stereotypes underlie homophobia, transphobia, sexism, etc., and they can all lead to hatred.
One observation I’ve made is that gender policing in Western culture does…[Read more]
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