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gdaymate posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 12 years, 3 months ago
You guys, I’ve had a girlfriend for a week (well, officially/exclusively… but we’ve been dating for almost a year) and I’m scared because tomorrow is the date I have set to come out to my mom. Quite a few of my friends know, and my little brother knows. He says that our mom suspects it, so I’m thinking I shouldn’t be as worried (?). But I’m still so nervous.
You set a date? Better than me. I decided when people were worthy, fretted about it at every opportunity (read: whenever I was with that person) and eventually kind of blurted it out after “I have something to tell you” was used as the generic opening line.
I think you should just work up your confidence beforehand and go for it. Assuming you have a fairly good relationship with your mother, that is. I didn’t. If you do, and if you know she’s not homophobic (another assumption,) then what are you worrying about?
I’m sure you’ll do fine :)
So, I lied and totally chickened out on the date I had set. Did that on the next day and the next day and the next day too. Last night, I realized that the only way I would be able to get it out is if I told her I had something to say. Felt a little discouraged when she said “Don’t tell me tonight… wait until tomorrow.” But today we had the conversation, and… I could not have possibly asked for anything better. She smiled and said “Well I knew that already” and it was all rainbows and smiles. She said some really sweet things, like that she doesn’t want my girlfriend to feel uncomfortable around my parents/in their house. Things are f*cking awesome.