-
FemmeSK joined the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months ago -
torque joined the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months ago -
Rose posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months agoAren’t people who blatantly ignore your most basic preferences just the worst?
I’m bi and I’ve never had a girl do this, but I’ve had multiple dudes who are in their 30s/living halfway across the country message me despite the fact that I specifically say 18-25 and living “near me.” I just don’t get it. I mean it’s not like these are…[Read more]
-
Yeah I have to say OK is really NOT ok even though I am trying to see if there are any femme ladies near me which at the moment does not look good at all
-
I’ve always found more femmes than butches, weird. Part of OKC’s problem is they are just a huge sausage-fest so ladies in general are hard to find. It’s why I had to change my search preferences to just girls because if you list both genders you hardly ever get girls in your results (or they are the same girls over and over).
-
-
the only reason i went on was to meet the ladies (i am bisexual as well) but geezus i just keep getting weird messages from weird men even though my profile and preferences say i am looking for girls ONLY dammit! but putting “gay” as my orientation felt like lying. solution???
-
Click the edit button next to your basic info. If you look under where you set your sexual orientation and gender, there’s a little box you can check that says “I don’t want to see or be seen by straight people.”
-
That button made OKC so much BETTER !
-
-
-
-
Rose joined the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months ago -
Rinnie posted an update in the group
Shystraddlers 12 years, 4 months ago
Okay, I need to shake off this crippling shyness ASAP and find some local gay friends because I want to go to a Pride Festival and how sad and pathetic would I be just wandering around on my lonesome, unable to really feel like I’m a part of the festival since I won’t know a single soul. :( I am sick of feeling so isolated.
-
I bet you could find a group that’s going to and insert yourself into it somehow. There’s got to be an online community or group organizing or partaking. Not sure how big your city is. But even if you break off with them because you’re not meshing or your uncomfortable, at least you gave it a go.
-
My biggest problem is that I live in a small town (seriously small, only about 250 people) and the nearest big city with any sort of gay community is almost an hour away, so making friends there is doubly hard. Going through the online groups is a great suggestion. Thanks!
-
-
See, this is a solution that might work for me. I do have straight friends who would probably go with me, and I think any awkwardness would be worth it as long as I wasn’t all alone in a big crowd (it makes my stomach knot up just to think about it). That’s awesome about the drag queens at the Colosseum — sounds like a fun time!! :D
-
Maybe I’m weird, but I totes would have grabbed one of those flyers and made it into a souvenir. :p
-
i went to my first pride parade last year with a straight friend. her brother is gay. it was not weird at all.
just find a friend and ask them to go with. it’s a road trip, a parade, glitter, rainbows, and omg GAY PEOPLE! it’s so very nice and life affirming.
-
-
Angel joined the group
Straddler-on-Straddler advice 12 years, 4 months ago
-
Allison joined the group
Shystraddlers 12 years, 4 months ago
-
kd15 joined the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months ago -
Chloe posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months agoThe only girl I’ve met IRL on OkCupid so far went straight.
:/
Why is it so hard to meet a lesbian.-
I had a fiancee go straight.
That was uncomfortable.
-
this is months late but omg, that is horrible :( I’m so sorry
-
-
bi girls don’t count? :(
-
What I mean is, she was listed as bi, saw me a couple times, then changed her profile to straight and told me she didn’t want to date women.
-
That’s really annoying, but I guess she was one of those cases where maybe she thought she was bi because she thought women were pretty or something, and then when she actually started dating women she realized she wasn’t? I’ve seen that happen with a few girls I know irl.
-
-
-
-
Chloe joined the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months ago -
Rie posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months agoI just did a head count, and all but two of the girls I’ve kissed were a result of OKCupid.
I feel dirty.
-
Rie joined the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months ago -
shinyshoes posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months agoAnyone else find that listing yourself as Bi means couples just keep approaching you for threesomes? Um, no thanks. I’m actually mainly dating guys from OKC, feel a bit weird meeting women online and actually do better with women irl than men as I read fairly gay and do roller derby so spend most of my free time around queer girls.
-
YES. Dear god. I actually started limiting access to my account because of that. “straight people” can’t see me now. I’ve gotten a couple nice meetings with some bi guys out of that. Still working on the girls part.
-
Yup, had that problem, too.
-
I’ve never had a message from a threesome-pursuing couple. I’m just puzzled that they keep coming up in my searches because they list themselves as “single.” If you need to put a disclaimer at the bottom of your profile about how you have a boyfriend YOU ARE NOT SINGLE.
-
That happens to me a bunch! And random guys. I’ve actually gone back and forth between listing myself as “bi” and “gay”. I suppose overall I’m bi, but I feel like no one wants to date bi girls and that it cuts down my chances of actually meeting someone. Anyone else have that problem?
-
-
Luna posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months agoI knew I wasn’t alone. Oh WELCOME TO YOU ALL.
I’m so sorry about the creepers and the non responders and the fronters and the fakers and the sexual skeeevers.HUGS.
-
Kayla joined the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months ago -
Rinnie posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months agoI had a previous profile where I chose “bisexual” because the options are so limited, and then I got a ton of skeevy guys messaging me about sex, which … ick. I’m creating a new profile and just going with “gay” since I’m more attracted to girls anyway and I’m sick of getting cyber-jumped by creeps.
-
OKC has added a feature recently where gay and bi users can keep straight people from viewing our pages, so if you’re mainly there for girls but not 100% lesbian that is another option.
It’s weird, though, I’m bi but have myself looking for “girls who like girls” and say I’m more interested in girls but not closed to guys if we have a lot in…[Read more]
-
Yeah, I checked off that option this time around, and it’s sooo much better.
The creeps are infinitely more persistent than the respectful ones. :/
-
-
-
Rinnie joined the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months ago -
Potter posted an update in the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months agoI actually feel kind of bad for the people who message me right now. I’m in the middle of a disaster response, so I have less time than usual to respond. And normally I’m gone during the week (on conservation project) with no internet connection as it is!
Oh man. -
Potter joined the group
OkCupid Survivor Group 12 years, 4 months ago -
Ashe joined the group
Shystraddlers 12 years, 4 months ago
- Load More