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Straddlers on Coming Out 11 years, 12 months ago
I would like some advice on coming out to my roommate. I have no clue whether she’s homophobic or not. She’s pretty religious, and I think probably conservative (we haven’t really talked politics). I’ve brought up gay things/people before and she literally had no reaction, so I don’t know if that means she doesn’t care or didn’t want to get into…[Read more]
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Thanks for the advice!
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I agree that you should test the waters with gay-related topics, and you never know – she might surprise you. Young fundamentalists are increasingly likely to disagree with their churches on gay rights, especially ones who actually know gay people. I knew plenty of people in high school who were lock-step with what their pastor or church believed…[Read more]
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Dayna posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 12 years ago
So, Im about to go to my university’s GLBTQA student org meeting, which is a first for me. So far Im out to pretty much no one, so this is a rather large step… and Im sorta freaking out >< It's no big deal, right? So why cant I remember that, lol. Sigh
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How did it go? I remember feeling the exact same way last year when I went to my school’s LGBT group.
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It went really well, better than I was hoping. Walking in the door was scary as shit, lol. So many people! But everyone was friendly, and that was awesome. Something to go to again, for sure. :)
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Great! I’m glad it was a good experience. I felt like I basically had “gay” tattooed to my forehead and had to keep telling myself that no one there cared whether I was gay or straight or whatever. It probably didn’t help that I hadn’t come out to anybody yet.
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Yeah, there was that too. But then I thought about how oblivious I was about the group before I went looking for it, so that made things a bit better. Im in no shape to come out to friends/family at the moment… need to finish figuring myself out first, lol
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That’s awesome that it went well! I was going to say that LGBTQA groups in college usually have at least a few straight ally members so don’t worry that you’re announcing your sexuality in any way.
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Hannah posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 12 years ago
I always have these really really perfect moments for coming out, but I never take them. For instance, at my school both students from low-income families and students who identify as LGBTQ are considered minorities, and when one of my friends was listing the minority groups, I laughed and said, “Well, I’m a minority,” and she said, “I had no idea…[Read more]
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um. uh. wait. ok. wait. what was the question? ok. um. yeah. wait. what? 12 years ago
So … very few of my friends know that I’m gay, largely because I’ve been somewhat hesitant about labels because of bad associations. A couple of months ago, a friend confided in me that L wants to set me up with male friend V. I was pretty drunk, and thought it hilarious and laughed uproariously, but didn’t share why. Recently, another mutual…[Read more]
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I chickened out.
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I would have chickened out too. Don’t feel bad! If you’re worried about ruining a friendship by doing the wrong thing, maybe hang back and don’t say anything to V unless the topic comes up directly. Or alternately, when you’re out with the group or with only a few people, just let it slip casually that you like the ladies. Like, you could see…[Read more]
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Thanks. I’ve told V, which solved the immediate problem and I’m working on coming out to the group. I’ve just been coming out these last couple of months and its so immensely liberating, I can’t wait to BE out, but HATE all the awkward conversations necessary to reach that point. Do you know the feeling? I’m not worried about being judge as…[Read more]
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