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Amanda posted an update in the group
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I need input. So there is this super cute girl who I know through a mutual friend. We have never talked in person and are merely facebook friends. She doesn’t live near me and happened to sit across from me on the train to pride. I was wearing a Chicago Blackhawks backpack and once she saw it she started talking to her friends about the hawks.…[Read more]
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well first of all, will you ever see her again? i think, for me at least, when i tell someone i think they’re fine, it’s for a purpose. if you just want to tell her just so she knows that’s what you think, i would say comment on something she posts on fb then strike up an fb chat convo about similar interests and go from there
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I think this is great advice! Only, err, don’t say “You’re fine!” say something interesting/funny. Fine can come later. :-p
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dizzy posted an update in the group
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oh Straddlers, what’s the best way to shake off a bout of depression? it’s been far too long, and all I am is grey inside. complicating things, I am soon to move overseas, and I’d rather not have a black dog follow me on the plane…
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I’d say get a counsellor. I mean exercising, eating right, sleeping right and all that stuff helps too. But I don’t think anything helped me more than getting a counsellor. Mine helped me in preparing for my move overseas too and what to do once I got here.
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Thanks, I think I’m going to give my old one a call… she is really great, but I used to see her about ‘actual things’ (people dying or nearly dying, dealing with abuse, etc), and I have felt weak about seeing her about depression, particularly when outwardly my life looks great and friends just can’t understand what I have to be sad about… but…[Read more]
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I have a friend who has a very similar problem. She is doing a great degree, has tonnes of friends, great family and outwardly looks like she has the most perfect life but really suffers a great depression. Depression however can be caused by a chemical imbalance however anyone can have it. So many people who are supposed to have ideal lives like…[Read more]
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Running and meditation never hurt me when I felt shitty. The one is good to get your endorfin production started, the other is good for nuancing things and calmth.
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cindy posted an update in the group
Straddler-on-Straddler advice 12 years, 2 months ago
My ex seems to think we have some “special connection” still coz I’m her first love. She keeps contacting me and saying we should talk and keep in contact esp seeing as I’ve just moved away to her side of the world (she moved to Europe last year) away from all my family and friends.
I stopped talking to her a month after we broke up and we only…[Read more]
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Cut her off. She’s walking, talking drama. Your move is a way to start fresh, take it as an opportunity to meet new peeps not waste your valuable time on toxic ex girlfriends!
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I completely agree! Too many women are too concerned with not hurting people’s feelings, but this girl sounds like she has no regard whatsoever for your feelings. Don’t get caught up in her web of bullshit!
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pluraliser posted an update in the group
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‘Sup, y’allfags. I just recently had my first kiss with this lovely lady I’ve been seeing for a couple of months, we were friends for months before that, and we’re one of those annoying adorable infatuated couples. But the kiss just felt like…. touching, but with mouths? Nice, sure, but no different from holding hands or whatever. If kisses…[Read more]
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isa posted an update in the group
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Okay. I will make this short because it is the classic “I’m-in-love-with-my-straight-best-friend” scenario. Basically, I am in love with my straight best friend. What the fuck do I do? (I am not out)…(& she has had numerous sexual encounters with girls but I am almost positive that her romantic feelings are strictly for boys).
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what do you want? Do you want to come out to her? Have a sexual encounter with her? Or try and forget about her?
I think the advice stems on what you want or what you think is even a possibility/how she or others may react.
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Maybe you can use your friend status to get a bit more insight into where she’s at in terms of her sexuality? Find out whether she’s romantically attracted to women or not, because if she’s not, there’s sadly not very much you can do to change that.
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Oh, honey. I think just about all of us have been there at one time or another. There’s never a really satisfying answer to this predicament. I agree with Cindy and Dizzy both. You should figure out exactly what it is you want from her. It sounds like she might be open to a fling. Would that be worth it? Some people can handle one night…[Read more]
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Rie posted an update in the group
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Straddlers: There’s a cool local event involving a lot of semifamous authors getting into performance shenanigans. I’d like to ask a girl I met while volunteering to join me, but I don’t wanna be a creeper. What’s the best way of doing this?
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what kind of contact info do you have for her?
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Only Facebook
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Well it sounds like there’s a low chance of being a creeper here… if you’re on good conversational terms just leave a post on her fb asking if she’d like to join you. If you haven’t really talked I’d message her saying something like “Hey, we haven’t talked much but you seem cool… would you like to go to this with me?”
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I’d try chat if you’re both online, otherwise a PM sounds good. I think the best way to think is what would you do/how would you react in her shoes :)
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Awww, thanks! I sent her a facebook message earlier this week, and she was very kind but had to say no cause she had a friend visiting.
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cait posted an update in the group
Straddler-on-Straddler advice 12 years, 3 months ago
So I already know there is no answer, but how the he’ll do I stop staring at the straight girl and imagining if I wait patiently enough she will be mine? I mean when she chats with other people I get jealous, which is ridiculous cause she can and should do whatever she wants. I try to be honest with myself and admit i’ve put her on a pedestal and…[Read more]
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Uh, maybe you could start some sort of Really Absorbing Project that required that you Go Places (where she isn’t) and Do Things Constructively and just generally have other things on your mind for a while and then maybe you’ll be out of this feedback loop of unghh. Maybe one of your friends has something you could help with.
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I think we’ve all been there with someone who wasn’t/isn’t interested, they don’t even have to be straight. It sounds like you are honest with yourself about how unrealistic your feelings/attraction may be (but isn’t all attraction like that?). Is there any way you can get to know her/her flaws better to try and kill the attraction?
I usually…[Read more]
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