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magiclovemuffin posted an update in the group
Shystraddlers 12 years, 3 months ago
If there was ever a group for me to join! Lately, my anxiety has made work weird. (I’ve worked here about 2 months. New city, new state… moved here for job.) I know these (straight) girls at work think I hate them, and I don’t, I just don’t want to go to bars with them because as the group states, I experience CRIPPLING SOCIAL ANXIETY and especia…[Read more]
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Rinnie posted an update in the group
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Okay, I need to shake off this crippling shyness ASAP and find some local gay friends because I want to go to a Pride Festival and how sad and pathetic would I be just wandering around on my lonesome, unable to really feel like I’m a part of the festival since I won’t know a single soul. :( I am sick of feeling so isolated.
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I bet you could find a group that’s going to and insert yourself into it somehow. There’s got to be an online community or group organizing or partaking. Not sure how big your city is. But even if you break off with them because you’re not meshing or your uncomfortable, at least you gave it a go.
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My biggest problem is that I live in a small town (seriously small, only about 250 people) and the nearest big city with any sort of gay community is almost an hour away, so making friends there is doubly hard. Going through the online groups is a great suggestion. Thanks!
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See, this is a solution that might work for me. I do have straight friends who would probably go with me, and I think any awkwardness would be worth it as long as I wasn’t all alone in a big crowd (it makes my stomach knot up just to think about it). That’s awesome about the drag queens at the Colosseum — sounds like a fun time!! :D
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Maybe I’m weird, but I totes would have grabbed one of those flyers and made it into a souvenir. :p
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i went to my first pride parade last year with a straight friend. her brother is gay. it was not weird at all.
just find a friend and ask them to go with. it’s a road trip, a parade, glitter, rainbows, and omg GAY PEOPLE! it’s so very nice and life affirming.
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Lucy posted an update in the group
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I was really shy as a kid. I’ve changed a lot in the past decade or so, but only in person. On the internet, I am as shy as I was when I was when I used to bring books to playdates. Why is that?
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i should think it would be the other way around (that’s how it is for some of us). still shy in person, but more outgoing online.
are you nervous about the ease of rejection by anonymous peeps or being ignored? i’ve found that to be a problem online. i interact more or less as i would in person, but some people have very rude/inconsiderate ways…[Read more]
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Yeah, it doesn’t really make sense to me, either. I guess I’m afraid of being ignored, maybe? It’s like, I wish I could strike up conversations with people online, but I don’t even know how. I think I’ve developed a methodology for dealing with others in person–strategies for breaking the ice, being comfortable as myself, ways of handling it when…[Read more]
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bringing books to playdates! that’s the cutest thing ever.
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If only I could think of a response to a girl telling me I’m cute, but alas, I’m too shy ;-)
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Les Autostraddleuses Francophones 12 years, 3 months agoJ’ai oublié comment qu’on dit ”least favorite” en français, pour exemple: “Summer is my least favorite season.” Aidez-moi s’il vous plaît?
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tu peux dire “l’été est la saison que j’aime le moins”, y’a pas vraiment de traduction idéale :/ (enfin j’en vois pas là tout de suite)
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Je suppose que tu peux dire “l’été est la saison la moins préférée” mais ça me gêne un peu…je suis d’accord avec Janis, je dirais “l’été est la saison que j’aime/que je préfère le moins”.
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Robin posted an update in the group
Les Autostraddleuses Francophones 12 years, 3 months agoQuelqu’un habitez en Grenoble?
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i’m glad you feel better having said it. sometimes we just need to rant at the universe and it makes things better. :)
good on you, muffin. keep on keeping on and do what you can.
I am sorry to hear you are having such a rough time of it. You have endure a lot with moving to a new city, etc. I can clearly see why these things can up your anxiety. I don’t think the girl should have said, ” We think you hate us.” Just because your not interested in going to a bar doesn’t mean you dislike the person that asked, sometimes…[Read more]