You’re totally right, in my opinion. I get where people tend to think that they’re related, but that’s because they take what has become a societal norm and assume it’s genetic, like a person’s genitalia. What people don’t realize is that if they went to a different society, they’d find things to be completely different.

I agree with you, though I’m not clear if you’re talking about the distinction between sex and gender identity (how you think of yourself/how you define your gender) or between sex and gender expression (how you dress/present yourself publicly). You’re still right in either case, though, neither condition is automatically tied to sex. If the…[Read more]

Well now I’m just wishing I’d argued. But I think I was actually too surprised she thought that to say anything. Sometimes I forget that the rest of the world doesn’t think the way I – and most of AS – do. I get so into this feminist/queer activist internet world that I actually do get surprised when someone has a different opinion. I just thought…[Read more]

I get your feelings. I’ve had to move back to my tiny isolated hometown for the summer and it’s causing me to avoid leaving the house as much as possible, including avoiding friends and drinking a whole lot to try and forget where I am. I think journaling is probably a helpful thing for this… also hugs! Here, have a consensual and platonic…[Read more]

i know how you feel; i’m going through something somewhat similar at the moment, where it’s really hard to want to be in other people’s company unless they’re really close friends (and hence less effort) – but things do get better. hang in there :) i’d also agree with what kimbit suggested, writing or some other form of expressing yourself…[Read more]

hey! i’m a new member to the group, so I’ve yet to go to any meetup, but am definitely down. a picnic sounds like fun and i make a yummy potato salad :)

lets do it!!!!

Totally into this idea. I didn’t go to the last meetup due to complications.

Hey, I just wanted to say, I definitely felt something similar back in my first year of university/college. I’m now in my last year and graduating soon. At the time I just sucked it up and kept going anyway, mostly because I didn’t have much of a choice (for many different reasons). It does get better though — it takes time to settle into places,…[Read more]

Not to detract from the seriousness of either of our posts, but damn, those emoticons look ridiculous.

I just graduated from college a couple of months ago and felt similar to you during my first year. I started off with a roommate but by the second semester I’d moved into a single dorm and further isolated myself.
During my second year I decided to do something different. I got another roommate – who turned out much better than the first, got an…[Read more]

God yes, this sounds like my first year of college to a T! I was really alone. It sucked, but I have great news- I know what to do. You just have to make yourself sign up for volunteer and group activities. Specifically, I’d say join your university’s feminist and/or LGBT groups, and get involved. You’ll make friends, be happier, and feel like…[Read more]