Like I said to dizzy below, if you go to the permalink for the update you’re trying to reply to (via the “View” link next to the timestamp) the reply button DOES work. Otherwise, it doesn’t work for me, either. I think I was having the same problem in other groups, too.

Yes! If I click the “reply” button, it just refreshes the page but does not provide me with a text box. HOWEVER, if I click “view” next to the timestamp, it takes me to the permalink for the comment and from there the reply button works. THE EXISTENCE OF THIS COMMENT PROVES IT! TA DA! (Still, I wonder if there’s a place we can email/comment about…[Read more]

Omg the @ thing worked. LOVE YOU AUTOSTRADDLE.

Oh, that was fun to read, and though-provoking too. Thanks for sharing it! (I admit, now I feel a little down about not having a date for NYC pride, but I always have a good time with my friends anyway, and I get to hold hands with one of them. :D)

I think it would be kind to let the other groups become established, get comfortable, so it won’t look like we’re encroaching their territory. (Or maybe I’m just trigger-shy from being on Tumblr for two years…)

can I wear a sundress and heels?

i’m with you.
…and i’ll be there in 6″ platform pumps.

I like this group, too. let’s raid ’em with our cuteness!

Femme raid time! I’ll put on my best fifties tea dress and lipstick, just for the occasion ;)

Sounds like we should start one!

There’s a futch group…there’s overlap, right?

okay, that sounds a bit like “can we start groups for people we are hot for so that we can have them in one place/ stalk them / raid/ dry hump?”

between all my lady loving friends they are split 50/50 some like only other femmes others like only butches.

I personally gravitate towards anywhere from somewhat androgynous looking (but still able to clearly tell they’re girl aka shane is not my cup of tea) to complete lipstick lesbians.

I am totally into the androgynous/masculine-presenting side of the spectrum. Although I can absolutely appreciate the sexiness of a hot femme!

I find androgyny, sleeve tattoos, girls wearing ties, and short haircuts extremely attractive.
I can appreciate the aesthetics of a Santana, but at the end of the day give me a Shane.

i feel like i always go for anyone from soft butches to other femmes like myself. the problem is that there’s basically no telling that i dig women simply by looking at me, so even the most lesbian eye contact will not convince another girl that i’m into her.

honestly, though, i’d swoon if either ivan coyote or dianna agron asked me out to…[Read more]

I looooove me some butch/andro/genderqueer girls. I’m also starting to get heterofemmesexual–I dig femmes who present differently than me, like hippie femmes and tomboy femmes.

does this mean we can make out?

I kinda just wanna go over there and tell them they’re hot. Or, you know, do raids.

I say we invite them all to play capture the flag… though we may lose coz it’s harder to play in heels?

I am so absolutely in for any/all of these ideas

this thread makes me feel like I’m at summer camp, and that is awesome. Raids and capture the flag, yes please.

definitely a strong resonation(sp?) for me. Regardless of my sexuality I always consider myself feminine. I feel different from other more obvious or stereo-typical looking gay girls and my friends and I all wear make up, dresses and skirts. I rarely/prefer not to wear pants(trousers). Always have painted nails etc.

I suppose does your question…[Read more]

Femme is such a complicated word for me! I’m still coming to terms with how I express my femme-ness. For me, it’s more of an attitude than a way of dressing. Although I do like to dress up for special occasions, a lot of the time I’m in jeans. Femme means to me being pursued, being treated like a lady, having someone open doors, being the little spoon.

I used to think I was a really tiny, girly, glittery butch, but when I started reading blogs by femme folk I had a big ol’ Christian-Bale-in-Velvet-Goldmine THAT’S ME DA THAT’S ME moment.

For me, it’s an aesthetic and a personality/navigation of gender role thing–I like to wear t-shirts and tight jeans and tall boots with glittery jewelry, and…[Read more]

I could just copy/paste everything I wrote about being femme in the “Fit for a FemmeCon”-thread (http://www.autostraddle.com/fit-for-a-femmecon-57709/) but that would be too much…
well, the important parts are:
“I just came out to myself as femme as well. For me it’s not all about the girly stuff I like, but about everything anyone in the q…[Read more]

Femme is a word that resonates with me in a really complicated way. I like overdressing and spending hours looking at makeup and being girly, but I don’t fit into that traditional femme “role” at all. If anything I have a stereotypically butch personality, but I definitely don’t fit the aesthetics. It resonates with me in that I am a very femme…[Read more]