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    microwave posted an update in the group Group logo of Straddlers of China, Taiwan, Hong Kong and those who wish they wereStraddlers of China, Taiwan, Hong Kong and those who wish they were 12 years, 4 months ago

    Hey everyone, I’m from Taiwan!!! (Currently living in Taiwan as well)

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    maddie0 posted an update in the group Group logo of Femme StraddlersFemme Straddlers 12 years, 4 months ago

    FIRST EVER BFF Friday! Ask Your BFFs (butch-femme friends) answers column NUMBER ONE is up :)
    http://buzzcutsandbustiers.com/2011/05/27/ask-your-bffs-monogamy-femme-invisibility-and-butch-protective-energy/

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      maddie0 replied 12 years, 4 months ago

      ALSO send questions anytime–this will be recurring. Comment here or on the blog, or you can PM me or @prufrock!

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      uhmina replied 12 years, 4 months ago

      i LIKE you guys!

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        maddie0 replied 12 years, 4 months ago

        :D THANKS, for real! We like you! Do please check back; more awesome to come.

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          uhmina replied 12 years, 4 months ago

          BOOKMARKED! no worries! :)

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    dizzy posted an update in the group Group logo of Femme StraddlersFemme Straddlers 12 years, 4 months ago

    How do femme straddlers express themselves fashion-wise? I seem to switch between 50s gal and indie nerd :D

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      Rie replied 12 years, 4 months ago

      Day to day: (and a lot of events): dark jeans, fitted black v-neck t shirts, black boots and statement necklace. The occasional wrap/a-line/shirtdress with an interesting pattern. Getting into the tights-with-shorts thing this summer because I’m at the upper age bracket for looking cute and not silly.
      Work/Some events: A black blazer makes…[Read more]

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        dizzy replied 12 years, 4 months ago

        Nice, sounds both classy and comfortable :) I love a statement necklace with blacks and boots, a great way to inject a bit of character without going OTT. Also, you folk dance? Awesome!

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          Rie replied 12 years, 4 months ago

          I contra :D Especially techno contra when I can manage it: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pt6BhNSpoRY (A lot of hot nerdy gay girls and other queer folk are into it, surprisingly enough)

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      maddie0 replied 12 years, 4 months ago

      At work I try for classics/basics with a little bit of a sharp edge. Lot of grayscale, minimal color pops, clean straight lines, very little in the way of patterns or pastels or soft ruffly anything. If I could steal Kalinda(of the Good Wife)’s wardrobe I would in a heartbeat. I dunno how you would sum up her style? Biz-badass-caz?

      The rest of my…[Read more]

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        Rie replied 12 years, 4 months ago

        Clothes of questionable taste are the best kind. I have a black t-shirt that is shirred/cut up and put together/threaded with maroon yarn and thread, with a subtle print of two fairies having sex on the back near the right hip. Best 3 euro I ever spent.

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          dizzy replied 12 years, 4 months ago

          That sounds AMAZING.

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          maddie0 replied 12 years, 4 months ago

          YESSSSSSSSSSS distressed tees yesssssssssssssss. My bestie who knows me ALL to well just gave me a hot pink WWJJD (What Would Joan Jett Do) oversize tee that I cannot wait to tear up and put back together. Yours sounds fab :)

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        dizzy replied 12 years, 4 months ago

        Ok! I actually have not watched the Good Wife before, so I googled the character, and, OMG, super hot. Femme but with a certain energy that makes her edgy rather than sweet. Mmm.

        In other news, I really like your workwear. I quit my office job to work in a community organisation, but I used to wear: sleeveless sheath dress made from suit…[Read more]

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          maddie0 replied 12 years, 4 months ago

          That sounds like an awesome getup! Yeah, I find that it works out pretty well for me to have my dual identity: sharp biz caz something-or-other at work and totally grungily inappropriate on weekends. Even though I feel like the latter is more “authentic,” I’d definitely miss the put-together alter ego if it were no longer called for in my life.…[Read more]

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      cindy replied 12 years, 4 months ago

      I love AA, so I sort of switch between over the top colours with lots of short skirts and dresses to a bit of a nerd or even sometimes punkish look.

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    maddie0 posted an update in the group Group logo of Femme StraddlersFemme Straddlers 12 years, 4 months ago

    GUYYYYYS I’m posting about @prufrock and my blog again but I don’t care, because this is awesome: http://buzzcutsandbustiers.com/2011/05/24/ask-your-bffs-butch-femme-friends-a-good-idea-or-the-best-idea/ Wherein we tackle anything you throw at us. Because surely you’ve got questions that can only be answered by a smart, lovingly snarky, and…[Read more]

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      Rie replied 12 years, 4 months ago

      I have a rhetorical (cough cough right) question for you.

      How is it that all the couples I know are monogomous, but all the people I date are poly (as a lifestyle). How’d all the monogomous people find each other?

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        maddie0 replied 12 years, 4 months ago

        Yay thanks for playin! Question has been noted, and we’ll reply with the link here when our first answers post goes up! :)

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          Maria replied 12 years, 4 months ago

          how do butches tell femmes are queer? are we really that invisible? I mean, I have dyke hair now obvs, but I don’t think it makes me look any queerer…just wondering. ;)

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            maddie0 replied 12 years, 4 months ago

            Sweet, thanks for the question! We got ya and should have an answers column up soon! :)

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            Scarlett O replied 12 years, 4 months ago

            These questions. I second them. And will plug my own blog in which the “invisible femme” phenomenon was a recent topic: http://deviantthoughts.wordpress.com/2011/05/15/fabulous-femmes/

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              maddie0 replied 12 years, 4 months ago

              Sweet! Will definitely check it out. Our answers column is up if you want to take a look! http://buzzcutsandbustiers.com/2011/05/27/ask-your-bffs-monogamy-femme-invisibility-and-butch-protective-energy/

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            maddie0 replied 12 years, 4 months ago

            Post is up! http://buzzcutsandbustiers.com/2011/05/27/ask-your-bffs-monogamy-femme-invisibility-and-butch-protective-energy/ :)

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        maddie0 replied 12 years, 4 months ago

        Post is up!! http://buzzcutsandbustiers.com/2011/05/27/ask-your-bffs-monogamy-femme-invisibility-and-butch-protective-energy/ Feedback welcomed, natch.

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          Rie replied 12 years, 4 months ago

          You two are awesome! Thank you for the very thoughtful answer–online dating has been a whole delicate balance of expectations, reality, voicing my needs but being willing to try new things–but it will be something to think on. :D

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            maddie0 replied 12 years, 4 months ago

            Thanks again for the question! The frequency of the feature will probably be based on volume of questions, so never hesitate if there’s another topic you want us to tackle :)

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      Tasha Scribbler replied 12 years, 4 months ago

      When I find that great lady on a dating site, I want to write her but I always feel like what I have to say is DUMB. Advice on what to write to break the ice and make nice? ;)

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        maddie0 replied 12 years, 4 months ago

        Yay thanks for the question! We’ll keep it on hand for the next installment!!

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    claire22 posted an update in the group Group logo of Straddlers of China, Taiwan, Hong Kong and those who wish they wereStraddlers of China, Taiwan, Hong Kong and those who wish they were 12 years, 5 months ago

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gf79ir4AOjI&feature=player_embedded This is strictly Singaporean, but it has relevance for everyone. A lovely and short video.

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      sparklypants replied 11 years, 9 months ago

      Thanks for sharing this! Proud to know that the video has made it here. :)

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    AG posted an update in the group Group logo of Femme StraddlersFemme Straddlers 12 years, 5 months ago

    @Rie GOOD POINT. I’m making a post because the reply isn’t working.

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      dizzy replied 12 years, 5 months ago

      Hey AG, Maria and I have been having the same woe, but the brilliant maddie0 has a workaround – click ‘view’ on the post you are trying to comment on, and you should be able to comment from the permalink of the post :)

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        AG replied 12 years, 5 months ago

        IT WORKS!

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