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Fencestraddlers 11 years, 10 months agoSo, I am a 20 year old college student who had very homophobic parents and so when I admitted to having feelings for a girl i was so harshly reprimanded that I refused to even look at girls but the problem now is that I am finding girls more attractive and I’m just stuck on how to separate whether im just bisexual or just hetrosexual and curious.…[Read more]
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Fencestraddlers 11 years, 10 months agoI’m a 3…(is there a 3.5??) but things have shifted as I’ve become more comfortable with being visibly bi/queer and sleeping with women on the reg and not just as an occasional whim.
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Fencestraddlers 11 years, 10 months agois there a better word for homoflexible?
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kinsey 4 maybe?
also, you’re awesome, I’ve never met someone who identifies on the gayer side of the spectrum without declaring themself full-on gay (not that there’s anything wrong with where ANYONE falls, etc etc, but it’s cool to find people who occupy the less common parts of it)
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are mostly-homos rare? do you think most fencestraddlers are kinsey 3?
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most fencestraddlers I’ve met are between primarily hetero and perfectly in the middle, though that could be a result of how much easier it is to find hetero action (sheer numbers, etc)
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It’s a lot easier to find heterosexual action purely based on numbers, and also because a lot of lesbians don’t want to date bisexual women, whereas straight men are usually fine with it (although some are a little TOO fine with it and for annoying reasons). From what I’ve heard from bi men, it tends to be the reverse with them – gay men are…[Read more]
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Most I’ve met tend to be kinsey 1 or 2s…don’t run into many who were 3 and up.
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Most of the bis I meet IRL tend to be straight-leaning (1 or 2), most of the ones I see on this site tend to be gay-leaning (4 or 5). In both I feel weird for being pretty 50/50!
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I’m definitely on the “gayer side of the spectrum” but continue to identify as bi, not lesbian. Kinsey scale I’m probably a 5, but continue to recognize my attraction to men.
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To me, ”heteroflexible” and ”homoflexible” always implied kinsey 1 and 5 respectively – someone who is predominantly one way but will occasionally dip into the other end of the pool/is not closed to the possibility that they might be a little bi. I’d say 2s and 4s are bisexuals with a preference. That’s just me, though.
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now what, exactly, is the difference between 4 and 5?
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Well, here’s the full Kinsey scale –
0 = heterosexual
1 = predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual
2 = predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3 = bisexual
4 = predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5 = predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual
6 = homosexual-
yes — this i understand — but what about the difference between romantic vs. sexual attraction?
and about actual behavior vs. desired behavior?
past vs. present vs. future sexual encounters/relationships?to me it seems so complicated
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um i realize you posted this ages ago, but i just joined the group and saw it. i’ve always wondered this too — i’ve had more actual hetero encounters/experience, but tend to want/desire relationships with women more, and feel more strongly about those relationships, i think? i think in some ways the kinsey scale is a bit limiting, and what you…[Read more]
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I got a check in the mail today addressed to my cat.
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I need to pee, but I won’t because my grey tomcat is napping in my lap and I don’t want to disturb him. Also, having him nap there keeps me warm since my house is very cold. I love my man. <3
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I have two cats and I love them both the same amount but in different ways.
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At what point do you reveal that to someone? I mean, it seems that whenever you feel comfortable makes sense, but there’s a part of me that worries about being misleading to people. Then again, ANOTHER part of me is like, saying something like, “hi, I’d like to ask you out but I identify as questioning” seems like an impossibly scary thing to do…[Read more]
Thank you for the advice! Ya I havent been able to get the courage to ask out any girls because I feel that because I’m questioning that they would be turned off by it. I guess it comes from that stereotype that gay’s hate bisexuals. I’ve had a few friends tell me about it so its hard to get over that fear quite yet
Madeline, you are pretty damned awesome! Thank you for sharing your thoughts about this with us! And Lauren — I hope you find the courage to ask out a really cute girl!
Late reply but: Omg I totally feel you — I’m a 21 y/o college student going through a similar thing. Help you figure it out/have figured it out in the months since you posted, and come back here to share your wisdom/brave stories with the rest of us.
Good luck!