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amoderngirl posted an update in the group
Straddler-on-Straddler advice 12 years, 3 months ago
I want to looker gayer, am sick to death of being hit on by guys. Not that I want to pick up girls, as I have a beautiful girlfriend, I just want some way of giving off a visible queer vibe but without embracing the butch-y aesthetic, as it would look ridic on someone like me. HELP!
gay tee-shirt? rainbow bracelets? But doesn’t having a girlfriend make you look more gay?
After an initial coming out period of shane-like dressing, but a current femme, I can only advise to stay true to yourself and don’t cut off your hair you will regret it :P
if you’re just looking to get dudes to stop hitting on you, as a definitely gay looking sorta butchy type gal, i can tell you, it won’t work. i still get that shit. maybe not as much as a superfemme might, but it still happens.
Perfect your bitchface, the look of “I’m the only person in the world so you better STEP OFF or I’ll make you sorry you looked in my direction”–New Yorkers and Roman girls do it really well.
THIS. It’s all in the attitude. Also, posture. Stand up tall and put on your bitchface. Works better than any plaid shirt will.
I have a tongue piercing, I think it makes me being gay more believable.
This is a toughie – if you figure it out, let me know! All I can recommend is that you take up space. No shrinking! If you’re sick of being hit on by dudes, be bold and speak confidently and directly, so that nothing you do or say will be misinterpreted as flirting. Just got to get your “Don’t fuck with me” face on!
just wear visible headphones in public, it pretty much says “i am ignoring everything around me that i am not directly looking at”. works like a charm.