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Amber posted an update in the group
Not Straight After All, Hey-O! 7 years ago Hello everyone!
I am relatively new to my acceptance. Although I should have realized my true identity when I ” just loved my girl friends so much, that making out was a normal thing”. I was held back from realizing that it was an option due to passive aggressive remarks from family members about my Tom boy style. Therefore I went on to marry my best friend from ( a dude) and have two children with him. And now I’m at a point in my life where I need to accept myself, otherwise I will combust. There is no physical attraction left for me. Unfortunately I am so torn on how to go about starting a new lifestyle where I could be truly happy, when I have two small kids that depend on me for consistency. And after 13 years of being with the same and only man I’ve ever been with, I find myself so afraid to possibly ruin everyone’s lives by leaving. I am hoping to find support here, since I live in a small town in AL.
I know you posted this months ago but I just want to lend my support and encourage you to do a lot of self-reflection on what you desire and what you need to be a complete, thriving person. Try to block out the voice that asks “but what if they think…”or the voice that fears you will ruin everyone’s lives. You are valid. Your feelings are valid. Your attractions are valid. Your sexuality is valid. You can be a good mom and a lesbian! You can be a good mom and bisexual! In fact you’ll be a better mom because you won’t be trapped in an unhappy relationship with a man you know you longer feel attracted to. I hope all the best for you and your children. Have you read any of the essays by Dear Sugar? One of her lines that has always stayed with me is her encouragement to “be brave enough to break your own heart.”