I could use some advice but I’m not really sure where to start. This last year I’ve started to realize that I have all this fear – fear of not being accepted, fear of I don’t even know what – in regards to coming out to family and old friends from my hometown. I’m out to my college friends and I finally came out to my parents last Christmas but we live far from each other and don’t talk much. In about a month I’m attending a cousin’s (hetero) wedding in Florida and I just got another tattoo, and all of a sudden started going crazy trying to decide if I should wear a dress I have or shop for something new that covers it up. I realized that what I’m really freaking out about is how much I’m allowed to be myself during the wedding weekend. I have to share a hotel room with my sister (who I’m not out to, and have a pretty bad relationship with) and be will all these extended family members and friends I don’t see often. I have a really hard time explaining myself; I’m bi, I guess, but I prefer queer as a label, and I’m scared that coming out to family – especially to my sister – means that I will have to defend my sexuality. But, I don’t want to lie. I hate lying, and all I want is to be able to authentically be myself without making shit up or changing pronouns. I would really appreciate some advice!