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Crystal posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 10 years, 10 months ago
Stuck in Texas…ugh. Finally realized that if the only way I could enjoy relations with men was by imagining they were women, probably meant I should stop sleeping with them. Finally putting all of the pieces together and starting to accept and feel more comfortable than ever about who I am. Mostly out. Except I face a lot of really frustrating…[Read more]
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jolotus posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 10 years, 10 months ago
Starting to despair….have recently stopped having rubbish relationships with men and come out as gay to all my loved ones….feeling much happier but failing to meet any gay women at all, even to just be friends with. Im stranded in Germany, with very little German skills, and I cant access the LGBT groups here. When I go out I get so much…[Read more]
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Hey :) it sounds really tough. But, hey, good job coming out, and please don’t despair. Really, everything will come at some point, and coming out is a very big step. You never think it’s going to happen to you, but really it’s just a question of keeping on reaching out to people around you and being who you are. People will like you for the…[Read more]
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Hey there!
Where in Germany do you live? I live in Germany too, so just write me if you like :)
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Hi Taylor, thanks for the messages….you know things got so much better in the last month. I think I was just kind of impatient :) I have some gay female friends here now and its much better. But I am always happy to make more :)
I live in Dresden…you?
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Lynn posted an update in the group
Not Straight After All, Hey-O! 10 years, 10 months agoSo Im a 31 year old single mother of 2 (both under 5 years old)…and Im only out to 3 people. I want to be out to everlyone but it seems so complecated! Any advise on how to meet a lady without heading out to the only gay bar in town? Is it even something I should even think about before I come out to more people??
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I would say don’t worry so much about being “out.” Also, hitting bars isn’t always the greatest either. There are a lot of pros and cons to online dating. Its hard to meet women, and yes, it is harder when you come out later. I came out 2 yrs ago and am only now getting the hang of flirting; and my gaydar is completely disfuntional. But you…[Read more]
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Valentina posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 10 years, 11 months ago
I’m so lost on coming out. I feel like I am trapped. I only have one gay family member and its my great aunt. I don’t know who to come out to and when… HELP! :<
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I’m in the same boat. Don’t talk to anyone till you’re ready… at least that’s what every thing i read says. lol. I told my best friend the a couple weeks ago that im questioning. He took it really well. find some one you trust completely, that helps.
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Alright, thank you so much for the advice.
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Exactly. don’t panic, start out by telling your friends, and don’t worry about being the only gay in the family. I was too, and my family was very cool. How did they react to you aunt coming out? Also, if you are not getting married in a few weeks, then don’t hurry with telling them, unless you think your relationsship is being hurt by keeping it…[Read more]
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Audi posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 10 years, 11 months ago
My story is long and complicated, so I will simplify as much as I can. At many different points in my life I knew I was gay. I was always to afraid to just let me be me, so I ended up just coming out as bi and calling it good. I really convinced myself that was all I was. I am married to the most wonderful man. We have been best friends since…[Read more]
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Morimori posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 11 years, 4 months ago
I nervously came out to a dear cousin of mine the other day, and I was kinda worried about her reaction. I shouldn’t have worried, the first words out of her mouth were, “girls smell better than boys.”
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Kai posted an update in the group
Straddlers on Coming Out 11 years, 5 months ago
Hey, so I guess I’m looking for advice, I’d love to be all casual and cool coming out to my classmates when it sort-of tangentially comes up in conversation, but I never take the opportunity. Today a classmate was asking me why I didn’t have a boyfriend yet, and I just kind of mumbled and nodded because it felt like my legs were gonna explode. I’m…[Read more]
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I have the same problem. There have been so many opportunities for me to just mention it, but I always clam up. I guess I don’t really have any advice, just commiseration.
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That’s okay! It’s good to know I’m not the only one!
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Oh man, I’ve been there. I went to a Catholic high school (I didn’t even THINK about coming out there) and now I’m at a historically Catholic college within a secular university where a lot of the people are still Catholic or were at least raised that way.
I just have to say that there are some people who are more accepting than you would think,…[Read more]
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some people may not think for a fact that you are straight i know tonss of people who use that question to make sure your really a lesbian and to confirm that the rumors are true you know?
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also i’ve been through the same thing but it helps to just nnot think about what your saying and just blurt out well…im gay and then after that things go one of 2 ways the bad way or the good way which usually means a shit ton of questions :)
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Hey I was having the same problem recently….I kept missing all the obvious cues and was starting to go a bit crazy…in the end I just forced it into the conversation, it was awkward, but its out and I feel better now :) just go for it x
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Hey GUUUURRLL wachu doin! (oops, re-represses ghetto side)
*throat clear*
Where are you from in San Antonio? North side, South side, East or West? I know it’s harder to be gay in certain areas than others – then again, it’s just hard being gay in Texas.
It’s also difficult being gay if you fall into certain “demographics”. Are you “white” or…[Read more]