Hey AG, Maria and I have been having the same woe, but the brilliant maddie0 has a workaround – click ‘view’ on the post you are trying to comment on, and you should be able to comment from the permalink of the post :)

well if you look at it this way, if you were straight you wouldnt be interested in them, so i guess any usual strategy of rejection would be fine. generally if i get the idea that someone is interested in me that isn’t reciprocal i distance myself from them for a bit, but not enough to seem like im ignoring them completely. if they make ANY flirty…[Read more]

I would avoid saying you’re not into them because you’re only into girls right now – that gives the impression that if, in the future, you decide you are closer to the center of the Kinsey Scale and that you are into dating boys again, that they would then have a chance with you. (Not saying that is necessarily going to happen, but you did say y…[Read more]

I personally find honesty the best policy. I suppose it depends how close you are with them. But I would probably confront them and let them know it’s nothing personal but it that it can be upsetting. Talk about how it makes you feel rather than laying any blame if you can get them to see it from your perspective. I’ve found the following phrase…[Read more]

Maybe I’m wrong, but I think it would be best for you to GO AHEAD AND ATTEND! If anything, you’ll meet like-minded individuals who may be able to help you with the wonderous adventure that is “coming out,” even if only to yourself (and maybe those few like-minded individuals..)
Either way, events are super fun.

Having online friends can really help. Maybe you can find some here or on other sites that you can talk to about what you’re going through?
(If you want to message me that’s cool :) )

If you’re brave enough to do it, I say go ahead. I went gay clubbing by myself a few times and ended up making a couple of friends to go out with, including another…[Read more]

i agree. just go for it. there is no secret initiation at which you’ll get your Real Gay Lady card and learn the handshake. if you feel like you want to be there, you belong there. done and done.

Are any of your straight friends LGBT-friendly? Maybe you could take them with you to events if you’re nervous. Just don’t bring any straight dudes with lesbian-porn fantasies, and it’ll be fine.

Like I said to dizzy below, if you go to the permalink for the update you’re trying to reply to (via the “View” link next to the timestamp) the reply button DOES work. Otherwise, it doesn’t work for me, either. I think I was having the same problem in other groups, too.

Yes! If I click the “reply” button, it just refreshes the page but does not provide me with a text box. HOWEVER, if I click “view” next to the timestamp, it takes me to the permalink for the comment and from there the reply button works. THE EXISTENCE OF THIS COMMENT PROVES IT! TA DA! (Still, I wonder if there’s a place we can email/comment about…[Read more]

Omg the @ thing worked. LOVE YOU AUTOSTRADDLE.

Oh, that was fun to read, and though-provoking too. Thanks for sharing it! (I admit, now I feel a little down about not having a date for NYC pride, but I always have a good time with my friends anyway, and I get to hold hands with one of them. :D)

Maybe you don’t need to turn it off, but rather use it to your advantage? The better informed you are about the opposition’s point of view, the better you can rip it to shreds. Read up on it avidly and critically and it’ll make you that much stronger of an advocate for yourself. That said, I do recognize that panicked, hyperventilating kind of…[Read more]