Also.Also.Also: “Where We’re Going, We Don’t Need Chairs” -Bisexuals

Happy December, friends! Did you make an advent calendar for your friends or family or self this year? There’s still time! I made one for my kids to share and usually my calendars include family things, like looking at lights or game night, but this year everyone’s schedules conflict, so there’s literally 0 nights when we’ll all be home together before December 25, which is TERRIBLE for many reasons but mostly for my calendar-making, of course. So instead of those family events, I tucked in some little facts about their dead relatives and the lessons we can hold in our hearts from each of them. It seemed like a very ingenious and sweet idea until I got to like the fifth person and all I could think about is how everything is ephemeral, even our weird bodies, and all that matters in the end is what a person can remember about you at 1am when she makes the advent calendar she’d been putting off until the very last minute! I mean! What are we all doing here??! Hahahahaha!

It was a fun night!

Queer as in F*ck You

The LGBTQ Movement Needs to Revisit Its Radical Past to Thrive

The Performance of Transgender Inclusion, and a response to that piece: We Still Need Pronoun Go-Rounds

When Straight Parents Are Lost on Queer Sex

The Queer Personal Trainers Tackling Heteronormativity One Deadlift at a Time

Bisexuals Can’t Sit on Chairs Properly

A Lingerie Expert on All Her Favorite Underthings — SPOILER the lingerie expert is Cora Harrington!

Mischievous Responders Taint LGBQ Health Estimates in National Survey 🤔

All-New Queer Adventures and Misadventures Are Arriving in Bongiovanni’s Grease Bats Collection. HEYYYY you know them!

The RAE Has Made Its Decision About Latinx and Latine in Its First Style Manual. Carmen is here with some context: “The basic crux is that the gender neutral Latinx has now been officially rejected as a word by the Real Academia Española – the official and most recognized source on the Spanish language (sort of comparable to, say, the Oxford dictionary. Except they’re more than just a dictionary). It’s a big deal because more English sources are increasingly recognizing the word (ie/ Merriam-Webster now includes it in the dictionary), so this decision widens the cultural gap between Latinx folks who are bilingual and live in the United States and those are predominately Spanish speaking and/or who live in Latin America.”

A Mother’s Love, by Raquel Willis.

Just in case you missed this! The Oral History of ‘San Junipero’


Saw This, Thought of You

Parkland Survivor Stories: “It was like a war in the classroom. It was a nightmare.”

Louisiana School Made Headlines for Sending Black Kids to Elite Colleges. Here’s the Reality.

Pushcart-Nominated Poet Accused of Plagiarizing Multiple Peers

My Mother Died From AIDS. My Tribute to Her Is That I’m Not Ashamed of It.

If You’re Wondering Why You’ve Lost Friends in Adulthood, This Is Probably Why

How Restaurants Got So Loud. Another recent and fascinating piece by Kate Wagner is Building Houses That Grow With Us, if you’re into architectural criticism, which apparently I am now.

How to Protect Your Information Online

How Britney Spears Built a Billion-Dollar Business Without Selling a Single Record. You might think you don’t need to read this piece by Rachel Syme, but you’d be wrong.

They Couldn’t Find Beauty Tutorials for Dark Skin. So They Made Their Own

Rookie Says Goodbye

Women in Syria Have Created a Feminist Commune Free of Patriarchy and Capitalism

White Liberals Dumb Themselves Down When They Speak to Black People, a New Study Contends

How to Make Your Own Scratch-and-Sniff Holiday Cards

Political Snacks

Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez’s Plan to Get the US Off Fossil Fuels Is Gaining Steam

Running For Office Is Really Hard If You’re Not A Millionaire

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