Also.Also.Also: Not Just a Tomboy and Other Stories for Your Story

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Hi guess what! I’m sitting at Riese’s dining room table SURROUNDED BY QUEER WOMEN. They’re everywhere, all four of them, and they’re all wearing Autostraddle merch. GAY.

It’s our yearly Senior Editor Retreat and we’re just sitting around talking about you and what you mean to us. (It’s a lot.) Yesterday, on the flight from Phoenix to Detroit, I watched Logan and listen, that was a gruesome yet spiritually uplifting film. That’s mostly unrelated to this retreat but I wanted to make sure I shared my feelings about Laura and her slashing skills, of which I had several, all positive.

We’re having a curry for dinner and I wish you were here!

Queer as in F*ck You

+ She’s Not “Just A Tomboy”: The Void Unfilled By Closet Black Lesbians.

If white lesbians searching for affirmation had Melissa Etheridge openly singing for another woman to “come to her window,” K.D Lang in a suit getting a shave from bikini clad Cindy Crawford on the cover of Vanity Fair or maybe 4 Non Blondes running around the bay area in plaid and top hats, we had no one.

Or, no one who wanted to claim us, anyway.

+ Supreme Court Ruling Helps Dykes on Bikes.

+ Lesbian Minister Preaches Acceptance in the Deep South.

+ No Major Religious Group in America Supports Refusal of Service to LGBT People.

+ ‘The Only Place that Taught Me Love’: Inside a High School for Trans People.

+ Queen Elizabeth Vows to Protect The LGBT Community In Speech To Parliament and gives a big HELL NO THANK YOU to hanging out with Trump.

+ Ladies in Space: Women Make Up Nearly Half of NASA’s 2017 Astronaut Class.

+ Gender Variance Around the World Over Time.

+ The Stranger‘s Queer Issue 2017 is good and cool and you will not regret it.

+ Transitioning as a Family.

+ Russia’s ‘Gay Propaganda Law’ Discriminatory, European Court Rules.

+ Spas Aren’t Relaxing — or Safe — for Trans and Gender Nonconforming People.

+ Mapping the History of LGBTQ Equality on Campuses.

+ LGBT Graphic Design: The Art of Logo and Print Design from a Queer Perspective.

Welcome to the Hellmouth

+ “Bipartisanship” Means “I Don’t Understand What Politics Is”

Doll Parts

+ This is the Conversation We Should Be Having About Carrie Fisher’s Death.

Keep Up

+ Medical Marijuana: How Six Senators Are Leading the Fight for Leading.

+ Louisiana Is First State To Ban Public Colleges From Asking About Criminal History.

Saw This, Thought of You

+ Cats Domesticated Themselves, so fuck you.

+ Tennessee Williams With Air Conditioning by Mallory Ortberg, you probably don’t know her.

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  1. I’m just gonna put my idea for an AS fundraiser here again which is to buy pizza for the annual retreat. PayPal dollars could be spent on actual pizza or like metaphorical “pizza”, as generally sustaining the AS ship in snack-sized donations. Does AS have an annual fundraiser? I would put in a little something.

    • I would love a pizza! Would give it a nice safe home.

      We have a way to donate whatever in the heck your heart desires, snack-size or pizza-size or ramen-size, by clicking the large-ish black button in the sidebar that reads “Donate Now for a Better Autostraddle”! If you’re on mobile, I believe the sidebar has been pushed down to the bottom of your page, so you gotta scroll scroll scroll to find it.

  2. My state did a thing that surprised me in like a nice way, that counts as progressive and might actually help someone not rich and white. And we did it first out of the entire nation!

    I’m going to go hug some jambalaya from my freezer b/c it’s as close as I can get to a huggable state symbol. Pelicans are a lot of things but huggable they are not.

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