Raise your hand if you woke up craving my grandmother’s fried potatoes and pork chops! Here are some stories we missed while I was eating Bran Flakes from TJ’s which ARE NOT fried, potatoes, or pork chops.
You Should Go or Do or Give
+ Hey you should support this cool wine tasting situation because it’s run by some queer women and we love ’em! Bottle Bracket Interactive Wine Club:
Studies show that your perception of wine changes depending on the wine’s price, label and expert ratings — for example, the higher the price, the more you assume you’ll enjoy the wine. We created Bottle Bracket to challenge these perceptions.
Queer as in F*ck You
+ This was a huge study and it’s SO IMPORTANT. Read up: When Sex Means Survival for LGBTQ Teens by Shauna Miller.
First, Dank clarifies the issue of choice in survival sex involving LGBTQ teens. “To the extent this can be considered a choice, it is born out of the fact that there are no other choices,” she says. “Language when it comes to this is so difficult; if you say they have a choice, that implies full agency, that they had other options. This is very much about resilience.”
Homelessness is a primary driver for LGBTQ teens turning to survival sex, according to the report. It cites national statistics showing that as many as 50 percent of homeless or runaway youth trade sex for shelter or for money to provide shelter for themselves, and that 48 percent of transgender people involved in sex work overall also report experiencing homelessness. A 2007 study of LGBTQ teens in New York revealed that LGBTQ youth were seven times more likely to have traded sex for shelter than heterosexual teens, and that transgender teens were eight times more likely.
Researchers also found that more than half of the respondents (54 percent) used any earnings from survival sex to buy food first. While conducting interviews for the study, Dank recalls how often the research team ordered pizza for the subjects. “I can’t tell you how many of them had not eaten in more than 24 hours,” she says. “They were weak. They didn’t have a dollar for a slice of pizza.”
+ The Supreme Court will hang out with Gay Marriage on April 28!
+ LGBT Parents Are More Willing to Adopt Harder-to-Place Kids by Rachel Williams and Debbie Andalo.
So it was jarring to many last week when Erskine publicly condemned same-sex relationships, calling them sinful, in what was widely interpreted as a direct or indirect response to the two volleyball players.
Hayley Rogers, 21, the editor of Erskine’s student paper, The Mirror, said that if she were in the position of Mr. Varona and Mr. Davis, she would have felt “personally attacked” and “discriminated against,” even if that was not the college’s intention.
+ Sally Kohn has some feelings about how being gay should be a choice. I don’t know you guys, I’m really into Kohn’s whole direction lately.
I agree, kind of. Last week I wrote an essay for The Washington Post in which I talked about wanting my daughter to be gay — implicitly and explicitly challenging the idea long advanced by gay rights advocates that being gay is not a choice. I’m not saying being gay necessarily is a conscious choice for many queer folks today, but I am saying it should be able to be a choice — and one that is “equally desirable to being straight.”
In other words, for me, the idea that people might be able to choose to be gay is a natural extension of eliminating the second-class, lesser-than status of gayness in society.
+ Hillary Crosley Coker‘s new video series for Jezebel, This Broad’s Life, starts off strong with Janet Mock. Gah this is so GOOD.
+ Ariana Vives interviewed Emily Lindin of The UnSlut Project: Let’s Make the Word “Slut” Obsolete.
+ Well fuck this is also so good. Ashley Ford with Why I Want to Live Like I’m 40 In My 20s.
Over coffee, I talked to one of my mentors about my frustration with the trajectory of my life. I’d gotten over feeling old, but I still felt stuck. She was everything I wanted to be. A successful writer, honest, warm and what I like to call, “fuckless.” “Fuckless” being the state of giving few, if any, fucks about what others think of you, or what you choose to do. It’s not about apathy as much as it is a certainty about who you are and what you’re meant to do in this world. I saw that in her, and I wanted to live that way as well, with confidence and a sure stride. I wanted to say what I meant and do what felt right. When I told her as much she responded, “Honey, you’ll be the same way when you’re 40. This is what happens to all women when we turn 40.” We laughed, and continued sipping our coffee and talking MFAs, publishing and lit scene gossip. Through it all, there was a clear thought in the back of my head: I don’t want to wait until I’m 40.
+ Ann Friedman would like to chat with you On Being a Badass.
+ Do you want to run screaming and crying into a large field, where you can collapse and feel sad and sick forever? This is a good catalyst: More Large Companies Are Run By Men Named John Than By Women.
+ Take a look at the #DearMe campaign!
Saw This, Thought of You
+ In light of the DOJ report: Ferguson’s Conspiracy Against Its Black Citizens and Ferguson Police Tolerated Sexual Harassment of Female Officers.
+ Also Sarah Kendzior has this report: Ferguson Inc. — The city’s protest movement tries to find a path forward.
+ If you’ve ever watched someone you love die of a drawn-out, painful terminal disease, this will break your fucking heart. A Painful Truth — No Relief for 5.5 Billion People. I mean, that’ll break your fucking heart either way.
A new United Nations report estimates that about 5.5 billion people – a staggering 75 percent of the world’s population – have limited or no access to proper pain relief treatment.
+ HEY SPEAKING OF PAIN MANAGEMENT Ben & Jerry Says “Maybe” to Weed-Infused Ice Cream and um, Texas Republican Wants to Legalize Pot Because “God Doesn’t Make Mistakes” [!!?].
+ Scientists Have Composed Music Just For Your Cat so everybody say thank you scientists!
+ UM EXCUSE ME Woman Controls Fighter Jet Sim Using Only Her Mind!
+ Orange Is The New Black Will Return June 12 REJOICE.
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