Also.Also.Also: Bolsonaro Wasted No Time Fucking Over Indigenous and LGBTQ Brazilians

Here we are!!! How much tea have you had today? Not as much as me!

Queer as in F*ck You

Gay Couples Rush to Wed Before Brazil’s New President Takes Office. Then he did take office and promptly did this: Brazil’s Bolsonaro Targets LGBT People, Indigenous Groups on First Day in Office

Employees Can Be Fired for Being LGBTQ in 26 States. Will the Supreme Court Make That Even Worse?

This Queer Biracial Woman Is Making LGBTQ Voices Heard in Texas

Can you get enough Kiyoko? Seems unlikely. Hayley Kiyoko: Your Own Personal Lesbian Jesus

After Being Forced to Marry, This Lesbian Couple Finally Reunited

Why Legalising Gay Sex in India Is Not a Western Idea

DMV to Offer ‘Non-Binary’ Gender on California IDs in 2019

Women Marry at Midnight to Become First Same-Sex Couple to Marry in Austria

The Rose Parade Queen we told you about in last Thursday’s roundup has since penned a story of her own and you should read it. I am Jewish. I wear glasses. I am bisexual — and I’m the Rose Queen


Saw This, Thought of You

Kristi Toliver, an N.B.A. Assistant Who’s Paid Like an Intern wow that’ll make you want to set your hair on fire.

How to Change Without Willpower — great for if you’re thinking about getting sober, or for anything really, but specifically that.

How to Hold Healthy Grudges, ah my personal brand.

This Is the Farthest Object Humanity Has Ever Explored

Get the Look: Villanelle’s Crumbly Chic Paris Apartment in ‘Killing Eve’


And Finally

Charlie Mackesy is this incredibly earnest and seemingly delightful artist living in London who posts sketches of an ongoing story of a boy and his friends: the mole, the horse, and the fox. He’s one of the few perfect strangers I’ve never once regretted following on Instagram. A couple of days ago he posted this video of a murmuration of sparrows and listen, I don’t know, it moved me? The Atlantic posted a series of 25 images of murmurations yesterday and I just felt like you should be made aware of all of these things at once — the sparrows, the boy and the horse, the mole and the fox, all of it.


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13 Comments

  1. I’ve already read so many people today who are happy about Bolsonaro “putting an end to gender ideology”. I’m deeply disappointed and sad about this. I wonder if I’ll feel safe to visit my family in Brazil in the next couple of years, if there’ll be an influx of queer Brazilians looking for refuge here, and mostly I wonder how I’ll survive this election year (and the next four)

    • Yeah, I fucking hate Bolsonaro and what his win represents. These next 4 years will be really, really hard. The few good and progressive people we managed to elect will have a lot of work to do and so will activists. I just hope we somehow manage to hold him back. That we are able to prevent the things he promised he would do.

      About being afraid and fleeing the country, there’s a lot of people scared and it’s not only lgbtqia+ folks. My friend’s dad is ready to leave Brazil as soon as he manages to sell his house and his a white cishet middle-upper class man. The reason he’s so afraid?? Last year, 10 days or so before the Election Day, Bolsonaro said the only options for the “lefties” in this country would be jail or exile.

      So, yeah, we’re afraid, I’m afraid (and I’m a middle class white person who’s read as a straight woman and knows that, come the worst, I would have the means to flee the country), but we keep living, we keep fighting and we keep repeating the same songs and the same mottos the previous generations did (Ninguém solta a mão de ninguém)

      • Yeah, I mostly mentioned queer people because of this website’s focus and the things he sanctioned today, but I know he’s also coming for the left, black people, and all its intersections.

        It’s scary and I fear how he’ll embolden the right in the rest of the region (which was already pretty bold, especially here since the Macri win).

      • I’ve heard Argentina is accepting of refugees fleeing Brazil. And my friend’s visa sadly was up over the summer and had to move back to Brazil. She’s also straight passing and lives in the nicer area of Rio but still it worried that the right will come after her as she has black pug as a support animal(tells me the color is rare there and the fact it’s a support animal), and for the wealth his father accumulated as bank manager for one big banks there.

    • Yes I know we should stay and fight and all of that but Don’t jeopardize your life and personal safety. It’s not Bolsonaro that scares me the most, it’s his minions and what they can and feel emboldened to do now.
      It’s sad to say this but if you can leave, leave.

        • Yep. Even though what he can do as President scares the hell out of me, the consequences of those actions in the minds of “everyday people” is what worries me the most.
          In the day he got elected i had a pretty bad episode of anxiety. Everyone started screaming, there were those really noisy fireworks, people driving their cars just that they could honk and make sure that we knew he won. And there were people shouting a lot of hateful stuff (from “suck it lefties, the country is ours, you can get away or go to jail or get shot” to “it’s over. All the fagotts and dykes will die”).

          So yeah, if two months before he even toke office things were like that, know that he’s in power and doing all this shit to undermine minorities, I don’t even know what his followers are capable of doing

  2. I generally think of grudges as bad. You know, the fake Buddha quote: “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else — you are the one who gets burned.”

    But I like what the NYT editorial is trying to say— we just don’t have a word for the thing she’s describing. Remembering that something or someone is bad for you and using that feeling as a source of energy sounds empowering.
    I just wish she didn’t call it a grudge. We need a new word like hygge or schendenfruede or one of those other cool words from another language that captures the nuance she’s celebrating.

    Mangata, a Swedish word for the reflection on moon in the water that looks like a road.

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