Hey kitten belts! It’s raining and I’m listening to old Modest Mouse. There are two candles lit on the corner of my desk. Soup is in my future. It’s a splendid dang day, is what I’m telling you. What if you had a belt made of kittens? Or, what if a kitten belt was like a tool belt, in that it had little pockets that held your many kittens? Oh that would be so good. So good! I hope you find your happy place on this beautiful Friday.
You Should Go or Do or Give
+ SAGE (Services and Advocacy for GLBT Elders) is conducting a nationwide strategic planning process and they are looking to hear from 1000 LGBT older adults and allies. Is that you? Then take the survey!
Queer as in F*ck You
+ Wow ok I don’t even know how to intro this piece but Noelle Stevenson has written a very, very extensive explanation for how Boba Fett is a Lesbian, and it’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me?
+ Oh damn. The Funny Thing About Abusive Relationships by Julieanne Smolinski.
That night that my friends were so worried for me, I was sitting on the subway heading home when I thought, Hm. Yep. This may end with him killing me. It is inexplicable how calmly I had this thought, and how I accepted it as a possible iteration of my chosen adventure. You have fallen into a cave and died. Your boyfriend got really drunk and you went home to him and he choked you to death. Maybe this wouldn’t have happened if you didn’t treat every day of your life like an episode of Raymond.
I don’t think anybody in my life knew the extent of it, and anyway, it would have been hard for them to do anything because I was so convinced that it was just a terrible choice I was choosing to make every day. I was just smart enough to stay where I was and keep anybody from intervening. I became adroit at writing expertly cavalier, hilarious apology emails that a jury would probably look at and think, Well, she certainly seemed fine.
This is so good I wanted to throw up.
+ The Next Battle for Marriage Equality by Suzanne Kahn. This is pretty fascinating. Read it.
Since their inception, America’s biggest social insurance programs have promoted inequality within marriages by pushing couples to organize their household economies so that one spouse is in the workforce while the other performs unpaid care work in the home.
Social Security, for example, encourages breadwinner-homemaker marriages using both carrots and sticks. Most people understand Social Security to pay out benefits at retirement purely on the basis of what individuals pay into the system during their working lives. But, in fact, Social Security does not pay everyone who contributes the same amount equally. Marital status also determines the size of an individual’s benefit. Social Security’s retirement insurance program offers a married person an extra 50 percent of whatever retirement benefit he or she earns. This “dependent benefit” is intended to support the worker’s spouse. Single people in the workforce pay the same Social Security taxes as married people, but they do not earn this dependent benefit. In other words, single people only earn two-thirds of what married people can earn.
+ This week in Oh Wow How Shocking, Who Knew, Study: Rape Rates Spike on Game Day at Big Football Schools.
+ Take some time to enjoy this profile on Ashima Shiraishi, a 14 year-old rock climber: The Wall Dancer.
+ But wait! There’s also this piece by Ann Raber, also about climbing: A Summer in Hell, in Texas. Lots of climbing today.
Saw This, Thought of You
+ Ashley C. Ford bringing some roundtable realness: Here’s What It’s Like When Your Parent Gets Out of Prison.
Resources for children looking to reunite with an incarcerated parent are few and far between. In my search, the closest I came to something useful was this very general list of things to consider before and after the reunion. At this point, it feels like I’m listening to an egg-timer with no numbers to show me how many seconds, minutes, days I have left. To get some advice, and perhaps to feel less alone, I reached out to other adults with previously incarcerated parents and asked about their experiences reuniting.
+ This is What $15 an Hour Looks Like: “In July, Emeryville, California, passed the highest city-wide minimum wage in the country. Here’s how workers’ lives changed—and didn’t.”
+ The Triumph of Email: “Why does one of the world’s most reviled technologies keep winning?” Adrienne LaFrance will now talk to you about these things.
+ You can use these secret url codes to unlock Netflix’s hidden categories. Choose your cheat sheet and command + F ‘lesbian’!
+ Do you want to see some ice fishing cabins in Canada? You can do just that!
Tribal Chairperson Charlotte Rodrique says that she is “offended by occupiers’ statements about returning the land to its rightful owners,” Amanda reports.
“You know, who are the rightful owners?” says Rodrique. “It just really rubs me the wrong way that we have a bunch of misinformed people in here — they’re not the original owners.”
According to Paiute story and legend, the tribe has lived in this area since “before the Cascade Mountains were formed.”
TELL ‘EM CHARLOTTE RODRIQUE.
+ Keffrelyn D. Brown brings you How Teachers Can Be Better: A Call for Cultural Knowledge in the Classroom.
+ Salvaging Education in Rural America, a topic close to my poorly educated heart.
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— Paul Feig (@paulfeig) January 8, 2016