Also.Also.Also: Bend It Like Beckham (Still), Queer Kids in 4-H and Other Stories for Your Week

Happy Monday! I made a pineapple upside-down cake yesterday and it was so good I yelled and the cat nearly fell off the bar which is why I tell her, over and over again, not to sit on the bar! She’s too skittish for those heights.

Direct Action

Take the 12th annual LGBTQ Community Survey! In 10-12 minutes you could make your voice heard and still have plenty of time to make a sandwich before getting back to work.

“There’s power in our Pride! Participating in this study helps open doors-and minds-around the world, and influences positive changes for our community. Previous surveys have yielded 45,000 respondents from 150 countries! You may have seen Community Marketing & Insights quoted in the New York Times, USA Today, Wall Street Journal, etc.”

Queer as in F*ck You

Do you want to hear Heather Hogan’s thoughts on Bend It Like Beckham?? DAMN RIGHT YOU DO. Why We Still Love Bend It Like Beckham 15 Years Later.

This Is Life On The Streets Of Hollywood When You’re Young, Queer And Homeless.

Here’s Lena Waithe’s acceptance speech at the GLAAD Media Awards in LA last week!

Iowa 4-H Is Reaching Out to LGBTQ Kids, and It’s Causing an Uproar Among Conservatives.

Outfest Helps Acquire 60-Plus LGBT Movies New to Amazon Prime.

Being Queer in a Juvenile Detention Center: A Survivor’s Story.

Intersectionality and Divergence – My Life in the LGBT and Labor Movements.

Why Marriage Equality Is A Matter Of Tribal Sovereignty.

David Buckel, Prominent New York LGBT Lawyer, Dies After Setting Himself on Fire.

‘We Are Human and We Have Rights’: LGBT Activists Speak Out Across the Middle East.

‘The Hunger’ and Its Notorious Lesbian Sex Scene.

Portugal’s Parliament Approves New Legal Gender Change Law.

Transgender Legal Protections Could Be Repealed in Massachusetts Via Ballot Measure.

Here’s a helpful explainer to send to friends and loved ones! They/Them Pronouns Have Come Between Me and My Child.

Doll Parts

From Coachella to #Beychella: Beyonce Schools Festivalgoers in Her Triumphant Return. And you can watch the whole thing here if you haven’t already, or if you just can’t go another 24 hours without rewatching it!

The Opposite of Respect: Sally Kohn and the ‘Exploitation’ of Aminatou Sow.

Can One Woman Sexually Harass Another? The Texas Supreme Court Doesn’t Seem to Think So.

I Couldn’t Find Any Disability Maternity Photos, So I Made My Own.

Keep Up

Teacher Strikes: The Backlash Against Years of Far-Right Economic Policy.

In 83 Million Eviction Records, a Sweeping and Intimate New Look at Housing in America.

Devonte Hart’s Biological Mom: They Gave My Kids ‘to Monsters’. This gets sadder and more horrific with each new piece of information.

Saw This, Thought of You

The Story Behind Wild Wild Country’s Red Rajneeshee Outfits. Y’all, I have tried to watch this and I can’t! The pacing bores me to tears and I normally love shit like this! I’m so mad at this show.

What It’s Like to Know You’ll Be on Antidepressants for Life.

And Finally

Another new Janelle Monáe song! No vulva pants this time.

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  1. Everything about that Kohn story is so gross. I’m glad Sow got her name removed and hate how much effort she had to put into it.

    And I didn’t realize where I was so I got to the end and kept scrolling and UGGGGHHH I SAW THE COMMENTS. And the top comment was someone whose feelings are hurt because they think the Root is mean to white women. Someone read that article and then put their fingers on the keyboard and thought, “What I got out of this is an opportunity to take a dig at the Root because I think they aren’t very nice to me.”

    So I’m going to spend a lot of the rest of this evening fantasizing about moving to a cabin in the woods with three dogs and no internet.

  2. I had no idea who Sally Kohn was before this past week, but GODDAM. “Caucasity” doesn’t even begin to cover it. This is so many layers of denial and privilege and implicit bias at work here. The excerpt from the phone call between Aminatou Sow’s team and Kohn’s publishers is maddening. “A misunderstanding or a mishearing” is such a minimazation and dismissal of the whole situation.

  3. Nowadays every single article you can find about education explains the level of technical knowledge and skills you will need to have in the near future for the “new working market” and we’re giving children just the knowledge to work on Walmart.

    But, hey, our politicians and businessmen always have a nice little speach for these occasions…

  4. The text on Bend it like Beckham is great, but “Jules and Jess thumbing their noses at conventional notions is part of the reason that many members of the LGBTQ community have embraced the film, even though there is no explicit LGBTQ representation” – really? Jess’ best friend comes out as gay to her during the movie. I think that’s pretty explicit.

  5. I cannot read the article by Davonte Hart’s bio mom. One of the things I have enjoyed as a foster parent is building positive relationships with bio families. I take my responsibility to them very seriously, of doing my best to keep the kids safe.

      • Aww, thanks! I remember when I had been a foster parent for a few months and was out for Saturday coffee with my dad. One of my kids was mad and screaming. I was taking her outside to calm down and talk. This older woman gave me such a dirty look.

        After a while the kid calmed back down and we went back inside to try it again. This youngish guy came up to me to say thank you and offered me a hug, which I gratefully accepted.

  6. @green my new girlfriend made me a pineapple upside-down cake last weekend, and it was heavenly. It’s my favorite, and I’m glad someone else was enjoying one (of their own, cuz I wouldn’t share) too. Also, I do read the links, but I was distracted by talk of dessert.

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