Also.Also.Also: Another Groundbreaking Acceptance Speech from Lena Waithe and Other Stories to Start Your Week

feature image via Lena Waithe on Instagram

Hello hi! If you caught Keala Settle’s performance of “This Is Me” at the Oscars last night, then you also locked in on the queer drummer with the asymmetrical haircut and a tear in her eye, and maybe you even said “GAY!” out loud right there on the spot. Everyone, meet Eva Friedman, the people’s queer drummer.

She seems like a very chill, very relatable person — someone who wants a breakfast sandwich and to watch season 2 of Take My Wife. Thank you, Eva Friedman, for pinging a million queer radars last night. You did a great job and truly brought us all together.

Read Heather’s rundown for even more queer moments from the Oscars and just do the backstroke in all that gayness. You deserve it.

Queer as in F*ck You

Cuban, Bisexual and Young: Emma González Brings All of Her Identities to the Gunfight. I’m sorry that’s one hell of a headline.

Lena Waithe Urges Her LGBT Peers To “Come Out” And “Stop Hiding” in an Unforgettable Speech. Amazing.

7 Trailblazing Queer Women You Didn’t Learn About In History Class.

Calls For Urgent Review Of LGBT Asylum Protections After Shocking Lapses Exposed.

Am I Gay or Straight? Maybe This Fun Quiz Will Tell Me.

Making Stone Butch Blues Into a Movie Is an Insult to Leslie Feinberg’s Legacy.

Dating a Trans Person Saved My Partner’s Life.

Meet 10 Black Transgender Figures from History Who Are Models for Resilience.

Welcome to the Hellmouth

Christopher Steele, the Man Behind the Trump Dossier.

Trump Says Maybe U.S. Will Have a President for Life Someday.

Georgia Punishes Delta Airlines for Revoking NRA Discounts.

The Trump Administration Tries to Stop Undocumented Teens from Getting Abortions.

These Trans Women Are Fighting for Insurance Coverage as Trump Unravels Their Right to Care.

Oil Was Central in Decision to Shrink Bears Ears Monument, Emails Show.

Doll Parts

10 Years Ago, the Internet Gave Us “Mansplain.” Let Me, a Woman, Explain Why It Still Matters.

These 9 Latinx Women are Taking Over Pop.

The Otherworldly Concept Albums of Janelle Monáe

Keep Up

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Inventors Of Killing Machines Like The AK-47 Often Regret Their Creations.

How to Buy a Gun in 15 Countries.

Saw This, Thought of You

Billy Graham’s Legacy Is Conflating White Christianity And Patriotism.

This was a good time: Common Calls Out Trump’s ‘Hate’ and the NRA in Oscars Performance. Also includes a list of the activists standing on stage during the performance.

The Seductive Confinement of a Weighted Blanket in an Anxious Time.

Quilts As Tools for Resistance.

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  1. Re : These Trans Women Are Fighting for Insurance Coverage as Trump Unravels Their Right to Care

    I got this link to a JAMA Surgery article in my email this morning :

    Temporal Trends in Gender-Affirming Surgery Among Transgender Patients in the United States

    “Conclusions and Relevance
    Most transgender patients in this national sample undergoing inpatient gender-affirming surgery were classified as self-pay; however, an increasing number of transgender patients are being covered by private insurance, Medicare, or Medicaid. As coverage for these procedures increases, likely so will demand for qualified surgeons to perform them.”

    This is from JAMA Surgery, and it looks like their take on it is “Yay, more work for surgeons!” I guess that’s ok…

  2. it kicked me off bc I ran out of free articles but I’m unreasonably annoyed by the # of neurotypicals who think weighted blankets are a new thing / backed that kickstarter instead of just buying one from any of the gazillion online outlets that already sell them, just marketed specifically towards ASD and ADHD and SPD ppl

  3. Oh man, I relate to the one on taking a quiz to figure out if you’re gay so much. The difference for me is that I didn’t start questioning my sexuality until /after/ I had a crush on a girl in my high school class, which I quickly went into denial about but kinda subconsciously knew it wasn’t straight. So for me, the question wasn’t just, “Am I gay, straight, bi or ace?” It was also, “Can I get through my 478527 layers of denial that I like girls?” (The answers were “bi” and “yes, eventually”.)

    I remember one quiz I took that asked, “What part of a woman’s body do you find most attractive?” And I was able to give a serious answer to that: *fantasizes about Billie Piper, my celebrity crush at the time* “The stomach. She has really nice abs.” That really should have given me a huge clue but apparently Younger Me COULD NOT TAKE A HINT.

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