Results for: non-binary
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You Need Help: How Do I Know If I’m Really Non-Binary?
There is no “solution” to gender identity.
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What Can a Nonbinary Transition Look Like?
People often understand being non-binary as a mix of feminine and masculine characteristics. That’s a start, but it doesn’t do justice to non-binary diversity.
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You Need Help: I Feel Disconnected From Gender As a Concept
“Identifying as a woman doesn’t feel right, but affirmatively identifying as ‘not a woman’ also doesn’t feel right.”
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You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Misgendering as a Nonbinary Femme?
Your work is not to make yourself more palatable to those who might misunderstand you. Your work is to be your glorious full self, too complex to be pigeonholed by any other person on this earth. And if your friends can’t respect you? They’re not your people.
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You Need Help: A Non-Binary Woman Working Through the Gender Feels
“Sometimes, when we allow ourselves to open a door, to open a possibility, the weight of that possibility and that choice is damn heavy – and overwhelming.”
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Getting Strong: A Conversation Between Two Nonbinary Humans About Weight Lifting
“When I say getting strong rules, I don’t have any number or definition in mind when I say that. It’s cool for people, as INDIVIDUALS, to feel like they’re strong and capable and I encourage that whether you’re bench pressing 45 pounds or 445.”
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In Genderqueer, a Word To Call Home
It conveys a sense of expansiveness that I’ve felt about my gender since before I had the words to identify it; a joyful space of experimentation and potential.
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Data Party! Insights into Nonbinary Readers from the 2022 Reader Survey
Autostraddle-exclusive insights into our nonbinary readers!
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You Need Help: Everyone Thinks I’m Lying To Myself About My Gender
“If you were to ask me my gender, I’d say ‘lesbian.’ The problem is people in my life will not stop asking me if I’m nonbinary or trans. Everyone keeps asking if I have new pronouns.”
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You Need Help: As a Transmasc, Am I Welcome in Lesbian Spaces?
You see, for me and you, dating women wasn’t the only thing that made us lesbians or gay. It’s an entire culture with a rich history of tradition, identity, protest, community, and so much more.
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My Gender Is Dyke
I wasn’t a woman, but a lesbian, an identity so powerful it’s the closest thing to a gender I have.
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How To Support Your Transitioning Partners and Friends
It can be helpful to see a transition as smaller, interlocked transitions.
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On Gender Fabrication and Femme Embodiment
There are so many things I may reach for to explain how I know I am a femme or an intersex non-binary woman but these words and concepts themselves are devised and constructed. Where do I anchor femmeness and how do I understand it?
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Sex With An X: The Perils Of Performative Spelling
Inclusive spellings have a long, meaningful history, but the current usage, especially replacing certain vowels in words with an “x,” leaves much to be desired – and might actually be actively harmful.
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What You Think A Woman Looks Like
Recognizing that I was never going to fit comfortably into my American peers’ idea of masculine or my Indian family’s idea of feminine meant freedom to throw out both scripts and write a new one.
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You Need Help: How Do I Tell If I’m a Butch Cis Woman or a Trans Non-Binary Person?
If I could tell everyone how to differentiate between gender expression feels and gender feels, I’d be Sovereign Ruler of Gender and maybe things would be easier, but probably also a lot less fun.
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A Gender by Any Other Name: What Does the Term Genderqueer Mean to Us in 2021?
“I feel like people started enacting these borders around it and categorizing it, and that felt so bad and wrong, and the antithesis of everything that it should be. Then, some people also really conflated it with the idea of being genderless or agender, and I’m like, “No…” I feel a lot of gender feelings! I don’t know what they are, or what they mean, but they’re there.”
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The Evolution of Unclockable Transgender Tuck Kits
Looking back, I wish a company like Unclockable existed when I was starting my transfeminine journey through gender.
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You Need Help: I’m a Trans Woman Looking For Affirming Lesbian Content
The point is this: it sucks that we still have to struggle with inclusion in lesbian community, your feelings are valid, and I hope you’ll be OK whether or not you can find enough trans lesbian-specific content online. Now, with all of that bluster out of the way, here are some recommendations.
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What Trans Visibility Could Mean for Trans People, and Everyone Else
Visibility can be a trap in many ways because we never got to set the terms by which we are viewed.