Results for: no fucks to give
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F*ck It All Fall
Let’s do it, queers. Let’s embrace our seasonal chaotic energy and manifest it into long-term, healthy decisions!
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Autism Is Not a Trend, but There Are Problems With How It’s Discussed Online
Health conditions and disabilities are more than how many views a 20-second clip gets or the number of comments under a post. It’s real-life shit that can affect the core of who somebody is.
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Ranking The National Songs by How Much I’ve Cried to Them
Trying to get sober was like pulling teeth.
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Self-Expression
“When I was diagnosed, and realizing how it affected me outside of the way that I eat, it’s these processes throughout my day or the way that my personality functions. It isn’t that disruptive, but having the framework helped. Finding kink, having the words for it, helped contextualize the sex that I like to have, the friendships that I like to have, the dynamics that I like to have and the relationships in general.”
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Boundaries
Kink is something that I can contextualize my life around, around eroticism generally, and that felt so at home in my brain. That I can have a container for a thing, that it is healthy to have a container for things.
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When Thin is a Trans Requirement
Body fat is central to how we perceive gender. So what does that mean if you’re a trans person?
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How to Quit Smoking
Tell yourself that you’re not like one of those chain smokers, that you can stop whenever you want. Start smoking American Spirits, so it’s like, not even that bad for you because it’s natural, or organic, or something. You forget.
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In 2020 I Dare You to Be Honest With Yourself About What You Really Need
Commit to your life, babe. Start today.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #12: Bisexual Marriage Blues, Sexting as a Bottom, and More!
Why does gay male sex turn you on if you’re a lesbian and is it okay? Plus, conflicting ideas about isolating & dating during quarantine, cheering up your partner over long distance, parents and mental health and Covid-19, SO MANY mixed signals from your ex wife who’s in another relationship and…should you fuck your boss?!?!?! Things are a mess out there, but at least we have each other and 26 questions from readers like you!
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Building Relationships Is Thriving: Interview with Meenadchi
Conflict is meant to happen. Relationships are strengthened by conflict. What are our capacities to engage with conflict in a way that doesn’t destroy us, but help us better understand each other?
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Into the A+ Advice Box #11: Meeting the Parents, Department Drama, Friend Breakups and More!
Recovering after being ghosted, dealing with queer tokenism, knowing if you’re a top or a bottom, straight people are STILL not ok, and did that organizer ask you for an organizing coffee or a COFFEE coffee??
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You Need Help: Stop Gaslighting Yourself
What would it feel like to move forward with curiosity, rather than relying on the comforting familiarity of self-doubt?
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How My Cat’s Anxiety Helped Me Be Gentler With Myself About My Own
“Why would I be gentle with myself when I was very clearly doing this thing — like so many other things in my life — wrong? No, I didn’t need gentleness. I needed more self-discipline, more conviction, more toughness. I needed to get my fucking shit together.”
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A Birthday Party No One Else Was Invited To
The first time someone described Casey as having “stalkerish” tendencies, I defended her. For the most part though, I didn’t talk about it.
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5 Years Sober (Or, the Meanest Lesbian I Know Punched Me in the Face)
“I knew that somewhere along the way, I stopped being sober for her and had started doing it for me — and that realization hit me harder than my own fist.”
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100 of My Favorite Poets For Your Survival Pack
In an unsafe world, we have to make our own survival packs. Carry the words of these 100 fierce poets in yours.
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All the Small Things: 5 Simple Self-Care Methods For Your Daily Routine
Sometimes getting out of bed and onto the couch is the biggest thing you will achieve in day, and that is okay.
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Thank you, Chester Bennington: The Queer Strength I Found in Linkin Park
“Chester Bennington’s anger was so present and so empathic. It told me it was okay that I had it too— that I wasn’t alone, that my feelings were normal. It replaced my fear, and it helped me survive.”
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Autostraddle Roundtable: All About Our Mental Health
A lot of the requests from readers for advice and for personal writing are about mental health, so today we thought we’d share with you about our brain situations, what helps, what doesn’t, and what we’re still working on.
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Y’All Need Help #6: You Can Still Trust Yourself
Realizing you’re bisexual after you’re married to a dude, coming to terms with this awful therapist, and never ever ever U-Hauling again. It’s time for some good old fashioned advice!