Results for: no fucks to give
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A Gender by Any Other Name: What Does the Term Genderqueer Mean to Us in 2021?
“I feel like people started enacting these borders around it and categorizing it, and that felt so bad and wrong, and the antithesis of everything that it should be. Then, some people also really conflated it with the idea of being genderless or agender, and I’m like, “No…” I feel a lot of gender feelings! I don’t know what they are, or what they mean, but they’re there.”
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You Need Help: How Do I Tell If I’m a Butch Cis Woman or a Trans Non-Binary Person?
If I could tell everyone how to differentiate between gender expression feels and gender feels, I’d be Sovereign Ruler of Gender and maybe things would be easier, but probably also a lot less fun.
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Into The A+ Advice Box #3: Summer Hookups, Bisexual Sadness and Gender Feelings
We’ve got 29 gorgeous questions and like 100 answers, so if you need help and you asked for it, you might find it in here. Casual hookups, breakups, threesomes, gender uncertainty, dating a co-worker, letting her down easy and so much more!
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You Need Help: You’re Not Sure If You’re a Boy and Gender Is Hard
“A lot of the narrative about gender questioning at large is about tragedy, about what we lose. I encourage you (even though I know it’s challenging) to think about your gender from a different angle. What makes you feel affirmed?”
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A Queer African Tale: On Trauma, Gender Transitions and Acceptance
“Dating broken white women became a way to reprise a powerlessness that years of sexual abuse and generations of blackphobia had tricked me into believing in. I drowned this feeling of powerlessness in weed and seeking out relationships in which I could engage in yet remain completely hidden from view.”
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Where Intersex Meets Lesbian
“Not all of my experiences as an intersex person inform my being gay, and vice versa, but the overlap is there and it affects things in ways that are both good and complicated at a time in history when homophobia and intersexphobia are alive and kicking.”
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A Queer of Various Stripes
Intersex and queer identities sometimes match up in ways that we’re familiar with and that conform to our understanding of how these identities are commonly defined. Other times they don’t.
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Also.Also.Also: The Empowerment of Goddesses, Twenty-Somethings, and NYC Girls and Other Stories We Missed This Week
From Dartmouth to the concert hall, there’s a ton of queer shit going down. And a little bit of Nickelback.
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We Are Family: S. Bear Bergman’s “Blood, Marriage, Wine & Glitter”
Maybe my mom was onto something. Maybe family really is everything, so long as you build it yourself.
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Also.Also.Also: This Indie Gay Country Song Went Viral and Other Stories We Missed This Week
A different kind of camp, a book you’ll want to pre-order, a victory for trans* people in the workplace, and LESBIANS.
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How To Live With Kids: Four Zines You’ll All Like, Probably
Zines for gender-neutral kids, unschooling kids, kids and their parents, and totally Wild Children. BAM.
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Lesbian With Alternative Lifestyle Haircut To Compete In “Miss Long Beach” Pageant
A 25-year-old lesbian hairstylist will be competing in the Miss Long Island pageant in a purple tuxedo and hand-sewn boyshorts. Kinda awesome, right?
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On Display: Navigating the Male Gaze As A Lesbian Trans Woman
“Welcome to being a girl. Get used to it.”
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Ivan Coyote on ‘Flying While Butch’: Don’t Let “State-Enforced Gender Conformity” Control You
“I managed to convince her that it was the wad of $20s I had from selling books in my front left pocket (I dress left), and she radioed back that the “object had been identified” and let me go, but my hands did not stop shaking for a couple of hours.”
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What Does a Lesbian Look Like?: The Autostraddle Roundtable
What does a lesbian look like? Until a few years ago, mainstream culture was pretty sure they knew the answer to that question, even though they didn’t. The Autostraddle Roundtable tackles passing, why people can’t understand that lesbians can have long hair, and the relationship between gender, style, and sexuality.