Results for: no fucks to give
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How I’m Navigating Play Parties as a Disabled, Immunocompromised Kinkster
I knew they taught about safety in BDSM culture, and I assumed that this ethic would carry through in their COVID safety. I was wrong.
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An Act of Service: Strapping My Dom As a Leatherdyke Bottom
I still love service, but strapping for the first time expanded my very definition of the word.
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Needle Play Brings Me Back into My Body Over and Over Again
Editor’s Note: This essay includes descriptions of piercings with hypodermic needles and blood in a BDSM context and brief references to self-harm. Needles are an edge. They encompass many spheres and much stigma, reminding us that we’re flesh sacks filled with fluid a mere pinprick can pierce. IV drug users and those who are tattooed […]
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Self-Expression
“When I was diagnosed, and realizing how it affected me outside of the way that I eat, it’s these processes throughout my day or the way that my personality functions. It isn’t that disruptive, but having the framework helped. Finding kink, having the words for it, helped contextualize the sex that I like to have, the friendships that I like to have, the dynamics that I like to have and the relationships in general.”
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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Boundaries
Kink is something that I can contextualize my life around, around eroticism generally, and that felt so at home in my brain. That I can have a container for a thing, that it is healthy to have a container for things.
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Queer Women and Leather: A Culture Clash That Has Nothing to Do With Veganism
An understanding of the leather community can help us co-exist, share spaces and celebrate all of the different ways to live queer lives.
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Bottoms Up: Used
“When I’m being used for sex, I feel like a vessel through which pleasure flows, hot and bursting.”
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View From The Top: The Thing About Sadism
I want to break things — holes, walls, people. I want to feel the begging in my pelvis and let it ignite the fire under me to burn bright up my spine and light up all my colors.
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Poly Pocket: Dreaming of a World With Less Fear, More Vulnerability As A Black Trans Queer Person
“I view polyamory as a structure that’s helpful in me decolonizing my love life and the way I view relationships. Having complete ownership of everything within the borders of my skin, and doing what I desire with it and with whom, is an incredible “fuck you” to the systems of oppression I seek to dismantle (and a fun one!).”
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View From The Top: Is Kink The New Vanilla?
You just have to be honest about what you’re looking for, and keep going after it.
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View From The Top: I’ll Take That Risk, And That Knife Play
“He’d asked me about it before, saying it was something he’d always wanted. And now, he was quivering on the floor, looking up at me, handing me an open knife with both hands.”
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Bottoms Up: Greedy
“Submitting is something I do, not something done to me.”
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Bottoms Up: A Way To Move Through The World
I started to see submission as less about what happens in play and more about a way to approach the world.
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View From The Top: Aftercare For Tops
“Perhaps trust is my biggest kink. That would explain a lot.”
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View From the Top: Dominant Fantasy vs. Dominant Reality
I have to be willing to reveal the messy, intimate parts of my life to have this authority exchange really work 24/7. Otherwise, it just isn’t sustainable.
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View From The Top: Giving Orders
Giving orders is more than the words coming out of my mouth. It’s the tone of voice I use, the eye contact, the confidence, the ease with which I speak.
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Bottoms Up: Why I’m A Bratty Bossy Bitch
Submitting is a weird dichotomy of knowing exactly what you want but putting someone else in control of giving it to you.
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View From The Top: Theory Is Foreplay, Right?
I wanted her. I dreamed about her, daydreamed about her, wrote love notes to her all day long, wrote erotica about our sex life. We weren’t together all that long, but she taught me so much about dominance.
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View From The Top: Dividing Acts and Power
“What if the person who is strapped-on is tied to a bed, blindfolded and ridden, not allowed to come? Who is really in charge then?”
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Bottoms Up: Bottoming and Butt Sex
I want to submit — to the right person. And the right person — with whom I have a deep level of trust, with whom I can relax — will fuck me in the ass.