What does it mean when to identify as a “bottom” or a “submissive” in queer sex? I come armed with data and some very vague answers.

A few minor adjustments can make fingering easier, even when chronic pain is cramping your style.

Lube. Just lube. Lube for regular sex, with or without toys. Lube anytime, for anything. It’s lube!

We’ve been talking about tops, bottoms and switches for a few weeks and today we’re doing a little glossary of the other words you use to describe how you have sex!

I knew they taught about safety in BDSM culture, and I assumed that this ethic would carry through in their COVID safety. I was wrong.

Slick back your hair and cuff those sleeves — we’re heading back to the 1940s and ’50s.

Then I feel something wet…but not in a place where I’m supposed to feel something wet. Also, it’s kind of rough.

In short, if you know, you know: fat sex is church. Here are some of the positions that have taken me there when I knew I needed to be lifted in prayer.

I want you to know that your shame is not uncommon and you’re not alone in feeling it. While it does take a long time to undo, you’re on the right track by acknowledging it verbally.

I still love service, but strapping for the first time expanded my very definition of the word.

1998 called — they said sorry for pushing stereotypes about nails and queer sex. Shelli and Ro are here to set the record straight.

Give yourself a hand — it’s International Masturbation Month!

Editor’s Note: This essay includes descriptions of piercings with hypodermic needles and blood in a BDSM context and brief references to self-harm. Needles are an edge. They encompass many spheres and much stigma, reminding us that we’re flesh sacks filled with fluid a mere pinprick can pierce. IV drug users and those who are tattooed […]

Do you really want to be that person who survived a plane crash and then died from putting a literal stick up their ass? No, you don’t.

Put on your lesbian hard hats — we’re about to enter dangerous territory.

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But it doesn’t happen for the reasons you think it does, and it’s not necessarily the problem you think it is.

I have to start by getting this out: “Fuck your ex. FUCK THEM.” You are not to blame.

Here are some of the most memorable movies in the canon of “films that have significant lesbian sex in them.”

For the first time I was able to experience, without pain, the feeling of having my partner’s fingers inside of me and we found a new level of intimacy and excitement… How did I spend an entire decade of my life letting the medical system tell me that constant pelvic pain was acceptable?

For trans women who experience genital dysphoria, being penetrated in the front can be really meaningful.