“Do you have color-changing LED light bulbs and/or light strips?”

“Bumble gives you two free filters. Usually filtering paidbut I def liked picking and choosing which ones to turn on and off. I fucked around a lot with the star sign and height — I can no longer allow Libras to disturb my peace.”

Let’s make some noise for the bottoms in the house! (It’s me, the bottom in the house.)

Please just say how you feel!!!!

Whether you’re a lesbian who dated men as a teen or a queer person who dates lots of genders, our community is far too mixed and gender is far too complicated to leave men — cis and trans — out of our discussions.

If someone has to serve you while you flirt relentlessly or converse stiffly, then they should be paid extra for that labor.

Is it silly to be hung up on this?

Accept the messy questioning phase. It’s the whole point of being alive.

As someone who’s dealt with substance issues, my friends and my therapist told me to cut and run, so I did. And now I regret it.

When it comes to boundaries, our strengths are our weaknesses and our weaknesses are our strengths. (Also let us talk about Raven Symoné’s chaotic gay TikTok, shall we?)

Is it a date or are we just friends? Why not both! This week we’re talking about fucking your friends with Autostraddle Community Editor and fucking your friends expert Vanessa Friedman.

Animals, like people, have their own personalities and should be taken on a case-by-case basis. (AKA wherein Drew bravely says that snakes are maybe a bit sexy thanks to a certain pop star.)

This week we’ve brought on someone in a gaymous power couple: Grace Lavery! But being in a public relationship isn’t just the joys of ambitious4ambitious. There’s also the matter of boundaries and privacy.

Celebrity crushes mean more to queer people than they do to straight people. They can be our first expressions of queer desire or our first expressions of gender envy. They can be a safe place to try out urges that aren’t ready for the real world.

How could we talk about queer dating without talking about astrology and tarot?

Ah, bodies. These sacks of meat, bones and skin that we must drag around until we come up with a better way to get through this thing called life. We knew we needed to dig into this and who better to do it with than the one and only Samantha Irby?

As a black, masc, asexual person, I am continually sought out for my assumed hypersexuality. When people don’t get that from me, they automatically assume a flaw, forgetting there are other other forms of intimacy within reach.

“I was very turned on by the concept as I have made very public that I am on the hunt for a Taurus wife.”

Our episode topic this week is Best Sex Ever so we are talking about… the best sex we’ve ever had! We’re joined by Autostraddle writer, poet, and journalist Dani Janae as we get into what makes good sex good.

“I’m really hoping throughout this podcast, you start dating like crazy, and maybe I settle down? Who knows what could happen?”