Results for: no fucks to give
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What Does It Mean to Be a “Bottom” or “Submissive” in Lesbian Sex?
What does it mean when to identify as a “bottom” or a “submissive” in queer sex? I come armed with data and some very vague answers.
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How to Finger Your Partner When You Have Chronic Pain in Your Hands
A few minor adjustments can make fingering easier, even when chronic pain is cramping your style.
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What If, Lube?
Lube. Just lube. Lube for regular sex, with or without toys. Lube anytime, for anything. It’s lube!
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Service Tops, Bratty Bottoms and Pillow Princesses: Other Words You Use to Describe How You Have Sex
We’ve been talking about tops, bottoms and switches for a few weeks and today we’re doing a little glossary of the other words you use to describe how you have sex!
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Things I Do To Feel Submissive Even Though My Partner Isn’t Super Dominant
There’s room for ‘incompatibilities’ if we find mutually supportive ways to manage them.
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How I’m Navigating Play Parties as a Disabled, Immunocompromised Kinkster
I knew they taught about safety in BDSM culture, and I assumed that this ethic would carry through in their COVID safety. I was wrong.
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The Gay B C’s of Sex: S Is for Stone
Slick back your hair and cuff those sleeves — we’re heading back to the 1940s and ’50s.
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Anonymous Sex Diary: A Couple Rekindles Their Sex Life with “Intimacy Boot Camp”
We’re both trying to avoid the lesbian bed death trope, hoping to be remembered in history as lovers, not “really good friends.”
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How Do I Approach Sex With My Partner of Six Years While We’re Both Navigating Trauma?
The lack of sex that resulted from our wildly differing needs has had a lasting impact.
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Queer Sex Horror Stories: The Tale of Two Tongues
Then I feel something wet…but not in a place where I’m supposed to feel something wet. Also, it’s kind of rough.
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You Need Help: How Can I Deal With My Own Sexual Shame?
I want you to know that your shame is not uncommon and you’re not alone in feeling it. While it does take a long time to undo, you’re on the right track by acknowledging it verbally.
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Positions for Fat Sex in All of Its Holiness
In short, if you know, you know: fat sex is church. Here are some of the positions that have taken me there when I knew I needed to be lifted in prayer.
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An Act of Service: Strapping My Dom As a Leatherdyke Bottom
I still love service, but strapping for the first time expanded my very definition of the word.
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13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex
“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But it doesn’t happen for the reasons you think it does, and it’s not necessarily the problem you think it is.
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25 Streaming Movies With Hot Lesbian Sex Scenes
Here are some of the most memorable movies in the canon of “films that have significant lesbian sex in them.”
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10 Ways to Celebrate Masturbation May
Give yourself a hand — it’s International Masturbation Month!
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The Gay B C’s of Sex: G Is for Gold Star Lesbian
Put on your lesbian hard hats — we’re about to enter dangerous territory.
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Endometriosis No Longer Keeps Me From My Best Queer Sex
For the first time I was able to experience, without pain, the feeling of having my partner’s fingers inside of me and we found a new level of intimacy and excitement… How did I spend an entire decade of my life letting the medical system tell me that constant pelvic pain was acceptable?
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Don’t Let Your Nail Length Stop You From Having Great Sex
1998 called — they said sorry for pushing stereotypes about nails and queer sex. Shelli and Ro are here to set the record straight.
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Needle Play Brings Me Back into My Body Over and Over Again
Editor’s Note: This essay includes descriptions of piercings with hypodermic needles and blood in a BDSM context and brief references to self-harm. Needles are an edge. They encompass many spheres and much stigma, reminding us that we’re flesh sacks filled with fluid a mere pinprick can pierce. IV drug users and those who are tattooed […]